You may have heard the story of the jilted wife who was asked to move out of her home when her husband asked for a divorce. As the story goes, she packed all of her belongings and loaded them into a moving truck, but before leaving, she put raw shrimp inside each of the curtain rods in the house. Months later, the husband brought his new girlfriend in to live in the house together, but the smell was unbearable. He paid thousands of dollars to clean carpets, repaint, and steam clean everything, to no avail, and eventually sold the house for well below the value.
It’s a story that strikes a chord in most people, as you feel a sense of vindication for the poor wife. She’s been betrayed, hurt, and even put out of her home; but in the end, she gets to know that her husband also suffered.
Justice is served, right?
Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 1 Corinthians 13:6
This woman was clearly not living in a way that reflected biblical love. She was rejoicing in an injustice that she had placed on another person, making her no better than her husband. We cannot “stoop” to a lower level of vengeance, no matter how hurt or angry we are, because it keeps us from being in the right.
I imagine this woman, if she had been real, could have faced a serious law suit had the truth been discovered.
It’s important for us to remember this in our day to day. Regardless of the amount of pain and damage to our lives, we must keep our hands clean. Do not act out of revenge by calling our spouse out publicly or humiliating them with their job, family, or friends. Consider your own motivations when a thought crosses your mind; are you trying to hurt them or get back at them? If your motivation is based on a tit for tat, then it is not something that you need to do. These actions will not only come back to hurt you, but they could ruin your chance at reconciliation or a healthy relationship later on.
The Bible says that we should allow God to fight our battles for us. If we trust Him with our lives and our futures, we must trust that He will work things out according to His plan for our life- without our “help”.
Are you trusting God, or plotting your revenge?
by Lili Morris