If you are the spouse who has been hurt – or the spouse who did the hurting – there are key principles for building trust again in your relationship. The hurt spouse often feels anger, pain, fear, doubt, anxiety, and
What does it mean – and what do you do – if your spouse has had more than one affair? Does that indicate there is no hope? That you should end it and get away as fast as you can?
What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband? In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still “deeply in love” with
There is a difference between that feeling of love and being “madly in love.” If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it…but not forever.
What is going on in the head/heart of someone “madly in love” with another? Why do they do the things they do? Say the things they say? Make the decisions they make? What if a person is married to one and
When a married person with strong values winds up in a limerent relationship with another person, it leads to cognitive dissonance. In that state, the person is emotionally and mentally miserable because their actions are in disharmony with their beliefs and
What to do when your spouse is having an affair and acts hateful towards you.
QUESTION: Should I perform an intervention on my husband who is having an affair? My Husband filed for divorce in Feb 2013 in response to me filing for legal separation. We have had little or no conversation since then, other
There are 3 different types of affairs. One night stands Allowed affairs (swinging, wife-swapping) Relationship affairs (the most common one we deal with, also known as limerence) Limerence occurs when a person enters into a long-lasting affair characterized by a
QUESTION: I would like your wise opinion about how to deal with my husband who is involved with another woman. He’s coming today & I told him I want to talk but I don’t want to argue or get into
QUESTION: How do you focus? I find myself constantly on the very edge of anxiety moving into the pit of my stomach, losing focus, unable to think or cope with much of anything. I really do need to function. I
“Did I Push My Spouse Into an Affair?” We often receive questions like this: “Do all the faithful spouses play a part? I don’t think that we do. I think that’s a cop out/excuse for the cheater, and it makes the faithful
You’re preparing for a war if you are in a fight for your marriage. The war that is the fight for your marriage has probably already started. It may have been going on for a while now. It may be
At the beginning of 2015, Marriage Helper launched our online radio show and podcast, Marriage Radio. We’ve pulled out the most listened to episodes from 2015 and compiled them all here – for your listening pleasure. No matter what you’re
You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the forbidden relationship and
This article was written by guest author Petra Blank who used MarriageHelper’s resources to help save her marriage. In 2011, I was hit by a truck… Not literally, but rather figuratively through finding out that my husband had began an
“I will not let you go unless you bless me.” – Genesis 32:26 Haunted and Terrified This is my story. This is your story. In Genesis, we find Jacob terrified—terrified because he is about to encounter his brother, Esau, and they
Though limerence by its very nature is relatively short-lived (typically lasting somewhere between 3 months and 36 months) it is a very real and intense emotion/feeling. When a person decides to leave a limerent relationship, or if they are the one abandoned by the other, the emotions don’t immediately disappear. READ MORE
Have you been using The Ashley Madison website and are worried that you’re secret will be found out? We can help you save your marriage. READ MORE
In this book, Rinaldi reports her experiences from taking a year off from her marriage. During that year, her and her husband decided to see other people during the week, and then come back together on the weekends. This decision, which Rinaldi forced after her husband’s refusal to have children, eventually led to the downfall of her marriage. Read Full Article