If you are the spouse who has been hurt – or the spouse who did the hurting – there are key principles for building trust again in your relationship. The hurt spouse often feels anger, pain, fear, doubt, anxiety, and helplessness. The spouse who did the hurt often feels remorse, guilt, fear, desire, and helplessness. […]
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QUESTION: Should I perform an intervention on my husband who is having an affair? My Husband filed for divorce in Feb 2013 in response to me filing for legal separation. We have had little or no conversation since then, other than emails that I have sent, with no response, and very little interaction. This Friday […]
There are 3 different types of affairs. One night stands Allowed affairs (swinging, wife-swapping) Relationship affairs (the most common one we deal with, also known as limerence) Limerence occurs when a person enters into a long-lasting affair characterized by a relationship and feeling “completely in love” with their affair partner. Limerence is discussed in more […]
“Did I Push My Spouse Into an Affair?” We often receive questions like this: “Do all the faithful spouses play a part? I don’t think that we do. I think that’s a cop out/excuse for the cheater, and it makes the faithful spouse feel worse.” No. The faithful spouse does not always play a part in why the affair happened. […]
You’re preparing for a war. It’s probably already started. It may have been going on for a while now. It may be against yourself, or it may be for the return of your marriage. Maybe you’re fighting yourself to get your self-esteem back. After years of feeling like you aren’t good enough, you started to […]
At the beginning of 2015, Marriage Helper launched our online radio show and podcast, Marriage Radio. We’ve pulled out the most listened to episodes from 2015 and compiled them all here – for your listening pleasure. No matter what you’re doing this New Year’s Eve, we’re here for you. We hope you will find comfort […]
You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to get out of it. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the forbidden relationship and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even […]
This article was written by guest author Petra Blank who used MarriageHelper’s resources to help save her marriage. In 2011, I was hit by a truck… Not literally, but rather figuratively through finding out that my husband had began an affair with a coworker. This was a major wake up call for me. Although I […]
“I will not let you go unless you bless me.” – Genesis 32:26 Haunted and Terrified This is my story. This is your story. In Genesis, we find Jacob terrified—terrified because he is about to encounter his brother, Esau, and they are not on the best of terms. They had deeply hurt each other in the […]
Though limerence by its very nature is relatively short-lived (typically lasting somewhere between 3 months and 36 months) it is a very real and intense emotion/feeling. When a person decides to leave a limerent relationship, or if they are the one abandoned by the other, the emotions don’t immediately disappear. READ MORE
Have you been using The Ashley Madison website and are worried that you’re secret will be found out? We can help you save your marriage. READ MORE
In this book, Rinaldi reports her experiences from taking a year off from her marriage. During that year, her and her husband decided to see other people during the week, and then come back together on the weekends. This decision, which Rinaldi forced after her husband’s refusal to have children, eventually led to the downfall of her marriage. Read Full Article
There is nothing like it in the world. Your heart beats faster at the mere thought of your lover. Her face floats up in front of your eyes at the most inopportune moments, distracting and tantalizing you with the anticipation of being with that person again. Read This Article.
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Limerence is a feeling of being madly in love with someone. Among its many characteristics are obsessive thinking about that person, changing things about yourself to please that person, and perceiving anyone who stands between you and that person as an enemy. It is a euphoric sensation that has no comparison. Read More.