The article is great, but I don't know what to do. After 16 years of marriage, My husband had an affair a very public one at that and I stood behind him during the fall out. 6 months later he decides that it was all my fault because I treated him so bad during our marriage and he went looking for someone to help him feel loved again. yadayada. Anyway he left me 6 months ago and won't even consider getting any kind of marriage help. I've tried to get him to do the marriage 911 course, counseling, but he just refuses. I still love him and we have 3 children together but he insists he only left me and not the children even though he only sees them maybe 1 time a week and calls every 2 or 3 days. I'm at a loss as how to get him to even consider trying to fight for our marriage. Any advice.