When I first met my husband, it was on the net. I know everyones all "omg! internet dating!" but that was never a problem for me. He randomly messaged me one day on msn after seeing a social page I had. I didn't plan to date him, we liked the same movies (rare to find someone who likes foreign horror films with subtitles) so I thought he'd be a friend. All my friends had moved away so I had none really. I'm not a girly girl. I like video games, horror films (hate date night movies!) and listen to metal. I kinda thought he was cute though and he likes me so we started dating. In any case, I accidentaly moved in, just spent the night for more days every time until I was given a key lol. After 1 1/2 years of dating we moved into a house that was closer to his job. I didn't work, every time I mentioned getting a job so I could have my own money, he's say how he wanted to take care of me and I didn't need a job. But! Moving into a house ended up costing more and we had no money so we were fighting. I propositioned the job idea to him again and mentioned that we could barely pay the bills and he agreed. We havn't had a fight like that since. We got married shortly after I started working, 6 months ago tomorrow. Now basically, when we started dating, he asked me a bunch of questions. Like how many guys had a dated, how long did we date, how many guys have I slept with. It was simple, I dated one guy, slept with one guy and we dated for 3 years. He lied about EVERYTHING! And I found out he lied about it shortly after we started dating when something didn't add up and I caught him (he said he hadn't dated in 6 years, but then I found out that his last girlfriend burned his arm. There were scars from it. I have a scar on my arm that was about the same size and all, and I could tell his scars weren't six years old so I called him on it. For the record, mine was from falling off a hamper and cutting my arm on the towel rack when I was 12) but basically he said that he didn't want me to know he'd been with all these girls when I'd only been with one guy. I figured he'd let me know in his own time and he did. He told me about the last one the night we got engaged. We humped like rabbits when we started dating, 3 times a day, but that slowed down when bills and all became more important so it slowed down. And slowed down, and down, and down... and it turned into once every 3 months. I got tired of watching him play video games so we got cable and I set up my own little room where I could do what I wanted and he started spending even more time playing. So we never saw each other. We became roommates. Until I got tired of that and started mentioning it to him. It picked up some, but only when I bugged him and half the time, me bugging him would leave me crying in the bed next to him while he snored. I got rejected all the time. I was looking at some stuff last night and read that I'm not the only one with this problem. But yesterday was different. We slept together right after I got out of the shower in the morning (he's never lasted for more then 30 seconds without trying so it wasn't for very long) and he promised it would happen again later that day. Then later he came into my room and hung out and watched tv for several hours. Still I tried to get him to come to bed and he wouldn't, just kept saying later. But I did manage to talk him into laying down with me. We never hug, kiss, say i love you, any of it and that's become a problem too. I started giving him $1 for each hug and $2 for each kiss lately. Atleast I got em though! But laying in the bed, he just hugged me. I actually enjoyed it more than sex! Go figure. And at the end, he joked saying I owed him like $1500 lol. The rest of the night was great, we got along better than we had since we first started dating. We went to the grocery store and he kept putting his arm around me. But then I came home and made up supper and for some reason that pizza knocked us out. Within an hour we were both so dead tired we were falling asleep sitting up. So no sex last night. And he promised today. And he came in here and watched tv with me again but he's gone off to his room now. I think he's actually trying. It's weird. I tried to hug him this morning and he groaned about it (he always did that recently) but when I let go right away and started walking away he said "wait" and I turned around and he had his arms out. So I think he's trying against habit. But still no sex. So I looked earlier at how to try to get your husband going. I said saying things like "I want your body" but to be honest, the thought creeped me out. And I know him well enough that I know me saying anything like that would either weird him out or make him laugh. I have a small stash of toys that he doesn't know about too. I found out long ago that he doesn't like porn or toys so I never bothered. But I never realized how much I don't want him to know that I have them. It's like your best guy friend finding out about them... or saying "i want you" to a guy that's a friend. Is that whats wrong with us?! Are we just too much of friends?! I like being friends, he's my best friend, I love joking around and calling him a fat monkey (don't worry, he's not fat, he's actually underweight so this doesn't bother him) but I want to be newlyweds too!!! Honestly, if he came in here and said "lets play with your toys" Id be more than willing, but I don't want to tell him about them...  He's not an experimenter either but I am and I try to sometimes but he never wants to. How can we be friends and be freaky in bed too? 

And that just kept getting longer... I guess it's because I've never told anyone, I kinda just spilled...