My husband and I are having issue after issue these past few months.  During a discussion to try and resolve some of these issues he admitted to me that the reason he lost his erection and could not finish last time we had sex, was because he found me so repulsive to look at. He then went on to state that he just can’t seem to force himself to be aroused by my post-pregnancy body and he feels that I am not even trying to get back into shape.  Our daughter is 15 mo's old and yes I am having a really hard time losing the last 15lbs of pregnancy weight, but by all accounts I am not enormously overweight.

This statement has TOTALLY shattered my confidence in the bedroom. It's been 3 months since he said this and we have not had sex at all.  He has tried to initiate sex but I just can't seem to get past this comment. I just know that the entire time we are doing it the only thing that will be going through my mind will be how disgusted he must be and how he must be wishing I was someone else, someone sexier.  Things have gotten so bad I won't even undress in front of him anymore.  To make things worse, the night we returned from my birthday celebration, after we were in bed, he tried to initiate sex again but I said I didn't want to, to which he replied "well fine then! I was just trying to do you a favor!” upset and very very hurt I replied with something to the effect of I didn't need his pity sex.  He has tried many times since then to explain these comments and correct the situation but what's said is said.  For as long as I live I will never forget these two heartbreaking remarks, so how will I ever be able to have sex with him again?