so 12 yrs ago i had an affair my husband and i stayed together and worked it out now he says when we have sex he sees me with this other man did i do the same things what did i do? what did he do? what did we say? well we decided after much fighting to work it out and he said he was recommitting to me and our relationship to be the people we were when we first got together instead of fighting all the time we get along great have fun and laugh but when we have sex he still wont climax we kinda just stop this leaves me feeling empty and sad like its just me i don't know how i can help him to relax and finish with me he can masturbate i know not because he tells me but i find evidence! its just when we have sex he wont? what can i do to help him relax with me?

it is not your fault but if you share everything about you past relation then its very difficult to adjust for a man to his wife because they think that there is no one like them but when he talks you must change the topic maybe he forgets to ask which he done last few years make your believe on him....