Ucloph,

This is basically a classic deception.  A "Bait and Switch" if you will.  Your husband has more or less lied to you before you were married.  He set the expectation that you would be fulfilled AFTER you got married and has STOPPED doing those things that would fulfill you. 

Now your marriage is about HIM controlling YOU.  Him telling you to that he wants you to meet his needs, but that he is not interested in meeting your needs.

And... to top it off... he wants you to do something that you DON'T WANT TO DO... just so he can get off.

But WILL HE do something that he DOES NOT WANT to do...  for you?  NOPE!

He gave you two choices:

"Get over it"  or "Ask for a Divorce"

If you choose "Get over it"...  you're going to be left for the rest of your marriage fulfilling someone else's fetish that YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO...  plus... you won't be having ANY children because he is DENYING you that, and he has admitted as much.  After seven months... this is only the beginning.  I am certain that whatever his fetish is, it will escalate until it reaches a point where he will ask you to do something that repulses you at your CORE.

If you choose "Ask for a Divorce"... you'll have to deal with all the things that come with that.

Here's a third choice that he didn't give you:

"Create and Execute your own exit strategy"

This means... for a time... do what you need to survive,  but make plans to get your own apartment or house, or another place to stay, a job, income, bank account in your name only, etc.

Then.. when you are ready..  EXECUTE your exit strategy... leave a little note behind:

"Dear Husband,

By the time you get this message... I will be gone.  You have led me here into this marriage under false pretenses, and I no longer want a part of it.  You and I want different things.  I want a man that is interested in ME as a person, who wants to cherish me, treat me special, want and desire me, and have children with me.  You want someone you can ignore all the time and then call on when you want your sexual perversions fulfilled.  I am no longer that woman."

Depending if you want to work things out with him you can add:

"I have moved out.. in an effort to show you than I am serious when I say... that I want a NORMAL and HEALTHY marriage that most people want.  It is now YOUR choice to decide if you want that too."

If he SAYS he wants what you want... let him show you that but DO NOT move back in with him until you are 100% convinced that things will not go back.
If he SAYS he does not want what you want...  then let him go.  You deserve so much better than this situation and you should NOT accept more of it.

I rarely tell someone to just "go and get a divorce"... I am all for helping people resolve issues.  But a marriage BASED on lies is not likely to last.  In fact... you might even still fall under the category of an ANNULMENT. 

Hope this helps...
David