My husband is bored w/our sex life and is tired of initiating sex w/me.
My husband was w/a stripper for seven years before me and is used to having extraordinary sex. I'm shy and not that experienced, but have been willing to try most anything.
Problem is he won't initiate sex anymore and has criticized or not even recognized my attempts at initiating sex. He has made me feel STUPID for the things I have done to initiate sex. One of the first times I tried to initiate sex he got irritated with me and said, "you can't just go straight for the penis!" rolled over irritated and went to sleep.
After that it was ALOT harder to initiate, but I just tried to start somewhere else.
He says he doesn't feel sexy or wanted because I rarely initiate sex. After hearing this, I decided to try lingerie or sexy panties. I actually initiated sex several times like this, but he still says I NEVER initiate sex. I'm so frustrated by that because it is so hard for me knowing he has such high expectations and I really have NO clue what he really wants from me.
In our last argument I brought out several pairs of panties and lingerie outfits to remind him that I actually had tried my best to initiate sex with him. He laughed at me. He mocked me and said those things were sexy, but he's not a child.
I don't even want to try anymore. I have no clue what to do and when we try to talk about it...we fight BAD!
I did try one time after that and he was gracious enough to thank me, but I just felt like crying. Nothing was different so he must have been disappointed.
I am too embarrassed to even try right now and I just feel like a huge failure every single day wether I try or not. I know that I am not making him happy either way.