Ok, me and my wife are still in the "Newly wed" phase of our marriage. We have been married over a year which is great. I love her to death.... but since dating to now the sex has dropped to an almost non existent state. She has no issues talking with other people about this problem but wont talk to me about it. I have been very understanding about it since we have relocated 6 months ago to one heck of a let down city. She aint happy here but this problem is just ongoing from before we moved. I have tried encouragement, movies, toys, lubes, books, magazines, web forums and talking to her several times. No matter what i say there is never any change. This is just one issue that we have and to me can be a serious one. She has dropped in the affection she shows me, she no longer makes those little noises when i get undressed to get in the shower... has even stopped joining me in the shower all together. The only real "affectionate" touch i get from her is a pinch on the ass every couple of days. I am getting to my witts end here.... I have a very active sex drive and she doesnt even care. She is a really... hard... woman to please in the bed. I have changed everything i get out of sex to try and get her more into it. Often times i find myself bored out of my mind and start avoiding even the topic of sex. Anyone got any advice or ask a question if you want to know more but please help. I will also be posting in the other sections with other issues we r having. Thanks for anything. I want to make this work and it is double hard because she isnt even trying.

I was reading some of your posts because i thought you had really good advice for jrsmum. I was hoping you would have some other helpful replies that might help in my situation. I know it has been a while since you posted this but if it's still a problem here is my opinion. Some women don't want sex and it has nothing to do with their partners, they just don't need it,but that doesn't help you as a man. I find with my husband it is only about sex. I know if he kisses or cuddles me it's because he wants sex. And it is a bit of a turn off. It would be nice to get a cuddle or some type of affection just because he wants to show me he loves me and know that I don't have to give him something in return all the time. You said that she doesn't show you affection like she used to, do you show her enough affection? A lot of women don't need the sex part like men do but they need the intimacy part. Have you tried just kissing and touching (not sexually) in bed, telling her you love her and her body, she is beautiful etc. then going to sleep not expecting anything. Make her feel special to you not just a sex object. If sex becomes a choir instead of something you look forward to then it's not fun anymore. Just remember it's not always about sex. Work out what she needs in the marriage and give it to her and  hopefully you will find she gives you what you need.