Is this a "racey" topic for some? Sorry if it is, but it's also a part of life and I really do want to hear thoughts :)

Right, "Lust" has been used as a dirty word. I'm not sure we have the right lanuage to discribe our "Desires". But without these desires why would we get married?
 To "lust or desire" for our partner is natural. But to do so in a degreading way would not be respectful.
 Did that make sense?

Lust is strong desire or longing for. When that desire is for something or someone that you have no right to, it's a bad thing. When it's for something or someone you do have a right to, it's a good thing.

For example, in 1 Timothy 3:1, "If anyone aspires to the office of a bishop, he desires a noble task," the original koine Greek word translated "aspire" means "to long for" and is a form of the same word used to describe sinful lust in Romans 1:27. The word "desires" in that verse comes from a different koine Greek word that also means "to long for" and that word is used in many passages to designate sinful lust, such as in Matthew 5:28 when Jesus talks about a man committing adultery if he lusts after a woman.

In short, the very same words that means lust in a bad way in some passages are used in other passages to refer to a wonderful desire for a good thing. Therefore, I repeat my opening point, desire or longing for is either good or bad based on whether you have the right to what you desire. Desiring a fiancée is okay as long as the fulfillment of that desire is reserved until marriage.

Besides, who wants to marry someone they don't have a desire for??? 

Why, thank you pappabear. Nice to get an amen!

I would hope most people would desire/lust after there partner otherwise whats to point. I know friends ship is important but it has to be more for me anyway.
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