So I finally meet a great man... FINALLY!! Like I am sure a lot of us a few really bad experiences... and sadly the few people I really gave my heart to ended up cheated and it totally crushed me. So I took a long period of time "off" just to invest in me and give my self time to heal and learn to really be okay and truely happy within myself. So years later I started to date really light weight.. took nothing serious just had fun... so here he comes... not the type of man I would normally date but knowing he is the type of man I should be dating to actually have a healthy positive relationship... so I give it a shot. Now here we are... he hooked me! (smile) I am so in love I can hardly stand it... he is amazing, smart, motivated, family orientated, loves me and my kids to death, would and does give us the world. He gets along amazingly with my family...especially my dad which is a HUGE deal.
But the one RED FLAG! So he also has a child full time...and we have a great family unit... we dont live together yet... the move is in process but here is the issue... So we have a lot of common interest and lately he doesnt like to do those things anymore... he always says oh babe why dont you go do it with your girls... I'm just going to relax at home tonight... okay once and awhile that answer is okay.. but all the time??? hhhmm?? It's at the point were we have ZERO one on one quality time anymore... like I mentioned both of our lifes revolve around our children.. we love these kids to death and we both own our own business so our lifes are crazy and on the go none stop... but it's important for us to have some adult quality time... all I'm asking for it one evening a month... he doesnt get it or see the importance.
But now... two different times... first time I was out of town for work and he didnt have his child for a period of two days and he just vanished of the face of the earth... no pick up... no return calls, texts... nothing! WTF So by day two... I'm furious, scared, hurt, sick to my stomach... just beyond myself. I finally talk to him right before he is suppose to pick me up from the airport and I couldnt even believe he had the balls to tell me such a BS story like I was that stupid!! Needless to say I was DONE!  I have been played for the fool in the past and I refuse to go through that again.. I see a Red Flag like that and I am done!
So of course we go through the period of I'm sorry's and I promise what I told you was true... blah blah blah.... So what do I do.. I take him back... Things are great until last night.... once again... and evening without his child... and aw get this my kids happen to be gone the same night too.... hhmm my mind goes right to... yeah we get to spend some QT together.. what does his mind go to.. Oh babe I'm going to go hang out with my cousin tonight... hhhmmm?? okay?? But I am going to call you later tonight.. I love you.  Tick Tock Tick Tock Tick Tock.... now we are almost at 1am...  so against my strong women rule... I call him.. no answer... 45 mins later I call again.. no answer... I text him ( not the sweetest text) and immediately I get a call back... In the fake sleep voice he says... " Oh I didnt go out I have been alseep at home all this time".   So now I'm PISSED!! Am I that stupid... I can tell your are faking you are asleep..... you didnt hear the phone ring all this time but you heard a text and called me with in 20 seconds of getting it..... and just more and more bullshit.  What am I suppose to take of this??? I mean I want to think.. oh you had a night off from the kids and work and you are getting some sleep and relaxing.. good for you (if that's the true case) but why all the stroy line and why cant you communicate with a simple text saying that?? Why the vanishing act for hours at a time.... I know you didnt go to sleep at 6pm when you just told me you were on the road but now you switch up the story that you have been asleep since then?? None of the storys or time lines even come close to making sense at all....
So when I straight forward ask him if you are seeing someone ... he gets defensive and throws it back in my face... "Oh I'm not the one going to concerts with my friends.. you are" Wait a minute!! You and I were suppose to go and you declined me and told me to go with them... WTF!!  I just dont get this.... am I over reacting??