Tys Wifey,

No one here is going to judge you.  Everyone's situation is different and unique and everyone's marriage is their own.

A man and a woman get married on THEIR terms... not anyone else's.

Why so much fuss over the Wedding Ceremony?  A wedding ceremony is an event.. it's not your marriage or your life.

Therefore... be honest with your Mother.. tell her you can't wait until next summer to be legally married.  You have health issues and you're ready to start your life with your man.  Remind her that a family ceremony is still what you want... and it could still happen at the original planned time.  Only... you'll be already married when the OFFICIAL ceremony occurs.

My wish for you and your husband... no matter what date you become legally married... is that you both work to create the kind of marriage that people can see and be inspired by.  This can only happen if you both put in the effort to meet each others needs and go out of your way to do so.  Your man's needs are simple - He wants your respect, admiration, and sexual fulfillment (your desire for him).  He is to go out of his way to me your needs for Conversation, Affection, Understanding, Financial Support, and to make you feel cherished and special.

If you both do that... no one is going to care if you were married by a judge in a courtroom, or if you eloped, or had a backyard wedding.

Hope this helps...
David

Don't worry about what the other people will say. It's better to be unique, right? Another thing is, your wedding ceremony will be one of a kind and it will happen once in your life.