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« on: September 26, 2010, 07:37:55 PM »
I am twenty years old, and am in love with my boyfriend. We were best friends all through middle school, and after our sophomore year of high school, he moved to Nebraska. After four years, he got back in contact with me and we have been talking non stop for about two months. He joined the Marines in those years of us not talking and is about to leave for another tour in Afghanistan. This will be his fourth time out. We're planning on getting married on his next leave which will be (hopefully) January or February. I have told only a few of my friends because most of them are still in college and we don't talk as much, but the ones I have told say I'm too young or am moving too fast. I have always been the kind of girl that never wanted to get married or have kids. This man has made me change my mind completely and the friends I have told have shown no support. I'm just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has been through a similar situation. I am a big believer in "when you know, you know" and I know I'm in love. Is there any advice anyone can give me?
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« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2010, 12:13:43 PM »
Well, I will start by saying that I firmly believe that, "when you know, you know." 

Over twenty years ago, when I was just about your age, I met this girl while I was causally dating her best friend. This girl and I hung out at her apartment while we were waiting for her friend to get off of work. We instantly felt attracted to each other and there was a spark there that we could not explain. She was tall, with flowing auburn hair and had these shapely legs that seemed to go on forever. I can still remember as if it were yesterday as she pranced around the kitchen barefoot making refreshments thinking that this was the right girl for me. Little did I know, she was thinking that I was the one and she told me later, that she knew instantly. Even though the situation was a bit complicated, we decided to start dating. I followed my heart and she followed hers despite those around us who told us we were too young or that we were moving too fast. Most expected that our relationship would not last. We ignored them and fell madly in love. Today, we have been married over twenty years and have three children.

But things are not always easy. When you marry young, you have to learn and mature together and sometimes there are obstacles and adversity. You have to learn to communicate effectively and also to think of your spouse before yourself and also to dedicate time for each other in order to survive. But if you are truly committed and love each other, it is indeed possible to make it work. I hope this helps...

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« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2010, 09:39:29 AM »
I totally agree w/ Gman! My husband and I were married young. He was 21 and I was 23. We have definitely had our share of problems and looking back, it was b/c we were young and learning. Plus we had a baby right off and that threw both of us for a loop. Newly married and a baby is not always the best combination but we wouldn't trade it for the world!

Just do what you think is best for you. Don't let others get you down or try to talk you out of it. Follow your heart and if in your gut you feel this is right, then go for it!
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« Reply #3 on: January 28, 2011, 07:27:39 AM »
Hi, before I met my Fiance I was with another man and we met at uni, lived together even bought a house together and the minute we got engaged I know it was never going to last and I was unhappy so I called the whole thing off and we moved on, but this took a good 5 years to make me realize he was not for me.
I have been with my current man for nearly seven year and we have just got engaged but we have been living together for about 6years
WE are still in no rush to get married and we are very happy together
So I guess my advice is whats the rush, live together and plan together.
Julie
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« Reply #4 on: February 03, 2011, 10:58:30 AM »
I don't want to step on any toes, but if you live together before you get married, you have a much higher chance of getting divorced within your first two years of marriage.
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