Here goes the question/problem. My husband and I have been married for 11 years. Last year my father-in-law who had been battling cancer for the past few years was finally diagnosed terminal. So we (my husband and I) decided to move him into our home and take care of him until he passed. This was very difficult for all of to cope with since we have 2 young children. Plus he and I both work full-time also. Then during the last week of his life I took FMLA to take care of him completely with some aid from hospice. Now here in lies the issue, my father-in-law left my husband everything since he was an only child and he was VERY wealthy. What hurts is that my husband went and opened a separate account (we had a combined checking before) when his dad moved in and he will not disclose to me anything. He about took my hand off when I accidentally came across a check he had received when I was cleaning out pants pockets to do laundry. I didn't know it was a check so when he reacted that way I was like "What the hell is he hiding"? Anyway since he wouldn't let me see it I was very hurt. I don't understand, our entire marriage we struggled together to make ends meet and now he doesn't even trust me enough to tell me what he inherited. I don't have access to the money so I can't even do anything with the information anyway but it really hurts me that he would keep this from me like I'm out to get him or something? Should this hurt my feelings or should I just let it go?

I feel like he is Daffy Duck in those cartoons when he finds that pearl and all of a sudden like "It's mine, it's mine, it's ALL mine"!!

Btw, you know what really stinks? I make more money than he does, I cover the myself and the kids under my insurance. Before all this I was what you would consider the bread winner and we were living off of my income for the most part. Vacations, Christmas's and such were things I paid for...

I think he is insecured from all that recently happens in the world with relationships and we humans having two sides where we may be evil when money is involved! Try to explain to him what you feel,and try speaking to him what the problem is, Try making him understand you better!!! I believe if he is sympathetic he will try making the situation better,and admit his mistake...am wishing you all the best

ask him to let you in on the news, that you are a team.  remind him that you loved him and cared for him when he was broke, so you are not in it for the money.