i am 22 years old i have 2 little girls with my husband and a daughter with someone else..ive been married to my husband for 15 months....we dont have the spark we once had. i see my best friend and her husband they have been together for 5 years as long as me and my husband and me and my husband dont have what they do...they have a son, they have alot of love...it seems my husband always asks me to do things for him, if i get on my laptop thats when he starts asking me to do stuff within minutes of me getting on it, and he just sits there.....he wants me to get the girls, change the diapers, feed them bathe them, its like he doesnt want to be involved what do i do?

Jessica,

Regardless of if he has a job outside the home or not, I think that he should help out a little. But you do need to get to the bottom of whatever is going on. It's best to do that after the kids are in bed and the two of you will have no distractions...

Behaviors get repeated when they get rewarded. If he is demanding and you keep doing what he wants...even if you gripe while you do it...he will keep demanding. Make it clear as to what you will do and what you expect him to do. Then stand up. Don't be mean, but be firm. Take control of your life. Then, when he does his part, reward him for that in whatever way makes him feel best. In a sense you have to train yourself and him to live differently than you do now.

Hate to sound like a commercial here, but the Your LovePath Home Study Kit could really help you get that spark back. It's available on this web site.

I so agree, for any relationship to work, it takes two to tango.