Cole,

One thing you can do to help with the jealousy issue b/w you and your husband is to not do the things that are making him jealous. I know that sounds very elementary but sometimes people don't think of it b/c they feel that they are having to give up something that they like and it may not be fair. But you can twist it and look at it from the angle of "Would I rather keep doing this and make myself happy or quit and make the person I'm spending the rest of my life with happy?"

As for his feelings for his ex, I doubt his "love" for her is at the same level of love he has for you. She may always have a special place in his heart for her, especially if they share children together. Or if they went through a major life changing event together, or something like that. But, it's really not something I'd worry about if I were you. Unless he's seeing her by himself and spending time with her. If that's happening then you need to cut that off!

But all in all, I think that if you just tell him your feelings of the ex, and do it in a way where you're NOT being mean about it then that will help.

Hope this helped!