Hi All,

Great forum this one, hopefully one of you have some experience and can offer some useful advice.

A little background..we have been married of 15 years, have 2 kids, and we are both Christians..

My wife has recently told me that for more than 15 years (ie from before we married) she knew that she was unable/unwilling to return the affections that I had for her, but married me anyhow.  She was looking for a way to escape her family, who I have to admit were at the time a little 'high maintainence'...not so much now.

In addition, she tells me that for the whole time we have been married that Sex was essentially to keep me happy, but now that she has admitted the *real* situation, she is no longer willing to have sex, or any physical interaction at all...   She also claims that she never actually 'made love' to me... It was always a physical only event (mercy sex).  The truth is that our sex life always seemed lacking.   She has said the old chestnut 'I love you, but just not like that'  Apparently she considers me as her very best friend...cold comfort I know.

She has also admitted to a recent affair that was conducted over the 'net and over the telephone, and it was physical (i.e. mutual masturbation) with a guy in another city.  He is apparently the only guy that she ever fell in love with.  It is 'apparently' over now, but she seems to be still working thru the loss of that relationship.

I have moved into a spare bedroom for now, and to her credit she has agreed to attend counselling, but tonight she asked me a rather interesting question.   Essentially she wanted to know if I would consider a 'sexless marriage' if the counselling does not work...I am concerned that she is not committed to the process...or maybe I am just being negative.

Do any of you have such an experience that you can relay to give me some idea of what to expect.  I am committed to the relationship.

Appreciate any experiences and advice that you can offer...

Thanks,

hopeful_hubby