Hi,

I’m a bit new to this so please bear with me..

Backround

We have been together for 5-6 years now and have 2 great kids. We are unmarried but I’ll get into that later.

So we dated for about 3 *rough* years, then on the day I was about to move out “I’m pregnant” was said… So doing the right thing I stayed to raise and support my child. I myself was a child of a divorced family and never ever wanted my children to grow up in that setting.

Over the Next 2.5 years our relationship mutated into something stranger then fiction.. I quit my old ways of bar hopping with her, and left the construction field to find a “more stable environment”.. So between the financial, emotional, and physical troubles we are still together and now have another child…

When I met her I worked seasonal construction gigs, made respectable money for my age and experience, but with all seasonal jobs out of work stints are always the case.. At the time I was 24 when we met she was 30, we enjoyed going to concerts and drinking at bars but the best thing we did we entertain with BBQ’s and Holiday party’s.  After our first was born all that changed (expectedly so), I started into the “Office professional” route to find regular work and steady income, while she stayed steady at her current job of 11 years.  Now I got a lick of the brass ring and make X3 her income with less then half the education.

Our relationship is less then perfect, she has modified hours 10 AM – 7 PM Thrus – Mon and I work 7 AM – 4 PM Mon – Fri. so we don’t have days off together… also by the time she is getting home I’m going to sleep.  Our conversations usually consist of what happened at work, she tells me about her stuff.. then it feels like she tunes me out while I talk about mine (I check one day by adding Indiana Jones actors for co worker names) << she failed..  While before we had children our physical relationship was AWESOME, after our Son I can count on 1 hand how many times we have performed in 2.5 years… Now with our next child joining the family I fear it could get worse.

After our first came along, I put the ring on her finger and pop-ed the question.. Yes was the answer but now when ever I bring up dates or joint IRS filing I get lazer beam eyes at best, and I get to sleep at a buddy’s house at worse. Although I do have to say soon as I got my “Big Break” and the money started rolling in she has been all about it.

Now to add fuel to the fire, I have an “old friend” contacting me… This adds the last nail in the coffin… I believe but pray not.

I have tried everything I can think of, talking to her (ends up in a fight) talking to her mother to about our issues… (mother said I asked.. and ended up in a fight)… All out arguments (it’s a fight duh) weekend get always, (Usually ok) Counseling ( ended up with her walking out cause we where out to get her)…

I’m at a loss and I’m really unhappy, but I do love her and the kids.. if not for her I would still be swinging a hammer and hitting the strip clubs after work… with nothing of value in my life.. she made me what I am today… but on the flip side I feel like a pet monkey that doubles as Toby from Roots while paying for half..

any help would be valued..


sorry for the long post lot on my mind.