I have been married for seven years and have three children.  I feel that my husband is very controlling, selfish, irresponsible and angry. He calls me names, puts me down and constantly tells me that I can handle things by myself when he gets upset. All he worries about is sex, which is a little impossible while we are both living with our parents and have three children( age 6, 3 and 4). We had to move back home because he refused to pay our rent because he thought I was cheating. He never sees any fault in anything he does.  Things have gotten so out of control that they turned violent and he was arrested. He always makes me feel like I cause everything that goes wrong and he loves playing the victim. And the last thing that bothers me is he has another daughter from a previous relationship that he does nothing for, and barely sees her. Her mother and I have become somewhat friends to where we can discuss what he's not doing for her. He'd rather go shopping than pay his child support.  When I tell him that he needs to do more he gets offended and says that I'm taking her mom's side.

Hello. I feel for where your at right now,  The only difference is I am a guy and it was my ex wife that was the violent one.  After 14 years of marriage and violence almost from the beginning.   Being a Christian and wanting to keep the family together, leaving was one of the tuffist things I have ever done.
But I would do it all over again if I had to to save myself and my kids.  Just like you my ex never admitted to anything she has done was wrong.  So all in all if their is violence in your marriage then you Need to get your kids and get out.  You don't want something happening to yourself or your kids.
I will pray for you and keep us posted.

Kerry