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« on: November 05, 2009, 05:22:34 AM »
I have heard men complained about their wife's attitude when it comes to sex. They don't initiate it, their attitude is like,"do what you want to do and get off me". I think this is a bruise on the ego of some sexually active husbands. How can this issue be resolved.?
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« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2009, 03:20:31 PM »
I think to just talk to your wife about this and let her see where you're coming from and you also need to listen to her too. She obviously has reservations about sex. Wheather it be the timing, sex itself, ect. Some women, it's the last thing on their minds and it's like "one more thing to add" to a growing list. NOT saying that's right, but sometimes that's the way it is. If I'm in the kitchen at night after supper trying to get it clean so I can sit down after a long day of housework and dealing with kids,  and my husband comes up to me and wants to have sex, I'm really not in the sex state of mind at that particular moment. So, I'm probably not even nice when I say "not right now." Just because I'm wanting to get done what I've started so I can relax!

But, if I've had a pretty easy day (rarely happens :)) or if I've been "thinking" about sex during the day then I'm more likely to be ready when he brings it up...or I initiate it. I think a lot of it has to do with the amount of stress we're under and if that can be helped at all then things will get better.

I don't know if that's what you were looking for or not but I hope I made sense with what I was trying to say :)
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« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2009, 10:13:00 AM »
I honestly don't get someone women (and some men). It's like they don't understand what a treasure they have at their fingertips. LOL. No I don't mean it that way...well okay maybe a little but what I'm saying is that when you allow yourself to put sex above housework and all the BORING stuff you'll find that life is much more fun. So the laundry piles up a little. Stay up 20 minutes later to finish it if you must for Pete's sake! It's worth it!!! It's not like you're stopping your chores to do another chore! Maybe it's just because I'm in my mid 30s and, supposedly at my sexual peak. I don't know. But for me I can't really think of much else I'd rather do than be in bed with hubby. It's not like sex takes all day. 20 minutes twice a day. The other stuff like chores, work, blah whatever can wait till we're done!
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« Reply #3 on: December 29, 2009, 11:06:37 PM »
hotzy, i agree with you there +1 everything else can wait.. and sometimes it takes more than 20min.. who cares its down right fun..

joanna, never thought of it that way.. i will keep that in mind
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« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2010, 02:12:04 PM »
funny its always about the husband wanting it. I never hear the husband coming up with "gee I see you have alot of chores, let me do them all for you and then we can go have a good time". if husband would just do more, maybe we wouldn't be so tired all the time
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« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2010, 03:27:19 PM »
Notsure,

I kinda agree with you about the husband pitching in more if he wants to...but getting that across to him is the hard part. I think they see that as extra work for them.
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« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2010, 04:28:55 PM »
One more thing on this, girls you've got to ask yourself a question here...do I want to sweep, do the dishes, vacuum (whatever) or do I want to have sex. How in the world is that a tough question? I'd say, "Screw the dishes, I'm going to screw him!" You get it, right? Again, this is not a tough call. The kitchen, dishes, whatever can wait another 20-30 minutes and on the scale of things I want to do...well there's a very clear winner and he has a big.....
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