I am new to this forum and happy to be here. I was married for 12yrs got a divorce and we decided to get back together. Bought a new home and wanted to get married again. Well, thinkgs didn't work out that way. Due to the pressures of our jobs, kids, life in general (stress) and our bitterness towards each other, he went out and had an affair. I did everything wrong (only found that out after many hours of reading about relationships), but it was a learnng process for me. I am trying to forgive him and work on my issues, but he still blames me for the affair. I have offered to him for us to attend the seminar and I am still waiting for his answer. I want to do this the right way this time, but I am having mixed emotions. I know this is normal.