Welcome, Guest. To use the forums, please login or register.
Did you miss your activation email?
May 17, 2012, 02:10:10 AM
Home Help Login Register
News: Use your marriage experience to help others by taking this survey!

+  Marriage Forums
|-+  General Category
| |-+  Introductions
| | |-+  Confused, do I still love him? 		« previous next »
Pages: [1] Print
Author Topic: Confused, do I still love him?  (Read 284 times)
Confuzzeled
Newbie
*
Offline Offline

Posts: 1


View Profile
« on: January 26, 2012, 03:41:40 AM »
Hi! I am new to the forum, and kind of new to marital problems.

DH and I have been married since 2007, we dated since 2002 .. so just about 10 years. We lived together for a long time before we are married.

I find myself confused, do I still love him? Do I want to be with him? I find myself fantisizing about having an affair (which I have never done or fantasized about doing). I have even been speaking with somebody, and sometimes the conversations get pretty steamy. Its somebody that I know from before I met DH. We have never been sexual together in the past. I havent seen him for years. I'm not sure how this all started.

I was doubting my marraige before I started talking to the "OM"

Things have not been good with us for a couple years, maybe two or three. They have been steadily getting worse. The lack of sex after my daughter was born in 2010 made things worse.  Not that the sex was good or often before I was pregnant.

It is just the ten year itch? I want to love DH. I just don tknow if I do anymore. I am not sure how to fall back in love with him. Honestly, im not positive that I want too.
Logged
solidground97
LovePath Club
Newbie
******
Offline Offline

Posts: 1


View Profile
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2012, 12:43:51 PM »
My wife and I went through something very similar to this but she acted on her feelings for the other guy and left. Only you can decide if you love your husband or not but my guess is that you do at least some or you wouldn't be here asking for advice. I think everyone at some point, usually in the early years of marriage, expects things to go smoothly without any bumps or problems and when those problems arise I think it makes people question their love for the other person and their level of commitment ( what am I willing to put up with, where do I draw the line) ultimately that also is up to you. My advice would be to lay all of the cards out on the table to your spouse, be transparent with him about everything and move forward from there. If all of the information isn't given by both of you, you'll have a much harder time solving your problem. I would recommend the Love Path Seminar if you choose to try to save your marriage, it's an awesome 3 days. One thing I learned from there is that your past, even your past with your spouse doesn't have to define your future.
Logged
Confused, do I still love him? - Pages: [1] Print 
« previous next »
Jump to:  


Login with username, password and session length


Marriage Help Forums © 2009-2012 Beam Research Center
Powered by SMF 1.1.12 | SMF © 2006-2009, Simple Machines LLC
marriage help | marriage seminar | marriage books | marriage compatibility test | joe beam | marriage articles | marriage questions