Greetings to all. i hope that by logging into this forum i can receive some constructive advise on how to save my marriage. i saw Joe Beam at a local church. he was awesome. I have been married for almost 17 years. i have two beautiful girls. one year ago my wife came to me and said that she thought she was in love with her old high school boyfriend. i was crushed. i spoke with the man and asked that he not be in contact with my wife. he is married and has two kids. my wife at the time said that she felt i was not the husband or dad that she had envisioned and she felt like she made a mistake. i took her complaints and made some serious changes in my life and continue to do so. the two of them continued to communicate via email and actually had an affair. i found out about this the week before Christmas. i moved out of the house for a week to gather my feelings and thoughts. i returned home and we tried to repair the damage that was done. we were making good progress, but she feels that it is not fair that i am trying so hard and her heart is only 25% into the relationship, and thinks it is time for us to move in the direction of divorce. working constantly on our relationship seems like a never ending task and we both get tired. we get along fine like we are friends. we have had many arguments this year with all that is going on and she is extremely emotional. i have also been a mess but at this point in the journey i am physically sound(working out five days a week to relieve the stress) and emotionally i feel like i am in a good place. however, i really feel like my wife will never be able to come around to wanting to have a relationship with me. so i guess i really just would like to know if anyone can give me some good advise as what to do at this point. i have spoken with her about going to the 911 seminar and she is opposed to it. thanks for anything you can give me.

Welcome Scojo!