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« on: April 16, 2010, 03:15:58 PM »
Recently I came across this website forum and began reading some of the posts. Very enlightening.
I have a slight situation that i would like to run by some of you
My wife of 14 years and I have seperated and started Divorce proceedings last year.  We seperated  for a few months, got back together  and the stepdaugther and her boyfriend had moved in with my wife. I got fed up and moved out again. Some of the problems were busy and demanding jobs consuming our time on and off work time. Adult, disrespectful stepchildren (hers) living with us, my turning to alcohol for numbing effects to get thru the day, finances, and now her getting involved with another man now that we are apart.
I have stopped drinking completely since we split and figured we could use this time apart to heal without constant interferance from outside sources. ie Step daughter and her boyfriend as well as my other grown step kids.They have convinced her that I am Satan.
Now my wife has started seeing another man that she met thru a on line dating situation. they have been dating for 1 month and she is starting to fall in love with him. (Big Fancy House and money).
I have drawn the line in the sand and said, Other Man, No Marriage. Now she wants divorce finalized. Do I stand by my convictions and christian beliefs and step back and see what becomes of this or finalize?

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« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2010, 11:29:35 AM »
I could say, paraphrasing Chante from "Two Can Play That Game," "punish her, punish her HARD!"  I suspect that would be contrary to the spirit of this place.  Nevertheless, It isn't you who has drawn a line in the sand, but God.  She has violated the marriage covenant, in addition, she has allowed others, notably her children, to sow seeds of destruction.  Give her up to God, get yourself an attorney for defensive purposes, and move on.  Let the process proceed, and focus on getting you together, through the power of "Christ in you - the hope of glory." 

At the end of the day, you don't know what God will do with this situation.  He could heal it, or he could heal you and enable you to go on in peace.  Trust God that He knows how much you can bear, and that He will bring you out of this with your integrity and relationship to Him intact.  She has made her choice, and you are not responsible for her choice; regardless of what things you did, she is a grown woman, who made some grown-up decisions all by herself.
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