My nemesis aka my husband has finally been exposed.  I left him 12-28-11 I took myself and my two kids ages 14 and 8 with me to where else but my mother's house. Yep, I'm 35 and back in my mother's house.I know, I know, how uplifting and confident that makes me feel.  Please, all those girls and guys jealous of my marvelous situation please hold all replies until I have gained a bit more strength..*giggles* I left him for emotional abuse and neglect and financial security score being zero..Most scores of his are zeros... no security financially, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, mentally..this is the reality. That is why I left (side note, been married since 1996) but there is a God and while I was gone..right after the new year came I guess so ex co workers of his got a conscience and hit me on facebook about how he cheated on me in 2004. We were going to divorce then because I ran into my first boyfriend in 2003 and I slept with him. I confessed and worked 4 long months fixing what I had broke..like vows and his heart and his mental pain..WELL, low and behold while I was doing that he shacked up with some bitch he met at work and continued his relationship with her for months after he said he forgave me and agreed he loved me and he wanted to stay married..if that isn't facked up enough, he kept this secret for eight years and when I told him I found out he reluctantly gave info..then he said yeah, I would have never told you so I wouldn't hurt you...WTF? He is just now saying he understands what he did..Oh, did I mention he lies constantly...I have heard it all before..I am trying to keep my marriage I don't know whether I love him...or I love the hope or the image of marriage I want or I am just facked up and co dependent and like shit treatment...Okay, maybe co dependent but I don't like shit treatment..I think he has NPD. Any thoughts out there my fine colleagues?  That isn't even the real problem..I can forgive mistakes but he is a cold wall when it comes to any emotion beside bringing pain..hurt...tears..and when he does the behavior and I react with pain and tears that is when he leaves physically...I have put up with so much abuse...when my dad died there was no support from him..he messes up horribly..apologized..then promises to never do it again..and does it again within the week and that is him going slow, now it is roller coastering hourly.  I am ready to walk but I feel so sorry for him..he has some problems but he caused me plenty...and there is more...but trust me, that is all I can bear to say now.  I hate to leave without giving out a *hug* Peace to you all.