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I'm new to the site. My name is Dru and I'm married for 7 years with 2 kids, been with the same ol-lady for 12 years long. I jo

Hi, and I am also a new member. My husband has left and is now living with a woman that he had an affair with 4 years ago. In April of this year she called him and they have been  talking and texting since. He says that he refell in love with her even though 4 years ago and in the years since he said that he never loved her--that he just thought that he did. I have known him for 25 years and we have  been married almost 22 years. He has cheated on me numerous times and never really seemed sorry about it. I have tried to get past it and forgive him but it has been hard to do. She is also married and left her husband in March. My husband says that he can make a clean start with her and wants a divorce. He says that he can never make up for all that he has done to me but with her it is new and exciting and that he is a changed man and will be different with her and not cheat on her. We did sign the papers but they have not been filed. I hear from him every few days. I just had major surgery on Sept. 5th and he didn't come to the hospital but calls or texts to see how I am doing. He just purchased a motorcycle--a crotch rocket style and has a seizure disorder and high blood pressure so that is a dangerous thing to do. I still love him but just don't know if I could still be with him as now that he has live with another woman--it just seems useless. Please, any advise is appreciated.

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I am a new member today. I was hoping that somebody could give me some advice on my current "situation". I have been married for just under two years. I found out in May that I am pregnant with our first baby. In September, my husband and I decided to take a final trip just the two of us to Cuba. While we were in Cuba, my husband pretty much acted like I was not there the entire time. He got drunk everyday and was talking to every person he could other than me. He even left me two nights during our trip to go party with some guys he met. I was devestated. Worst trip of my life. My husband apologized for the way he acted and I forgave him and promised not to bring it up again. When we got back from our trip, my husband told me about two weeks later that he was really stressed, did not feel like he even had a vacation and that he wanted to go back to Cuba. His initial intention was to go with another married co-worker. I was naturally opposed to this idea because a.) we just got back from Cuba two weeks ago and b.) we cannot really afford it. His friends were planning a weekend trip to Montreal which I told him gladly to go on so that he could relax and be with his friends, but the fighting continued for about three weeks until I finally told him to just go to Cuba (at this point the co-worker was unable to go). My husband opted out of going away for a weekend with his friends to going to Cuba alone for one week. My husband says that the reason he needed to go was to clear his head, because he and I had been fighting a lot for the past year and he just needed a vacation. My husband did not want me to tell my family, friends or even his family or friends that he went. He lied to his friends whom he had blown off. During the entire week he was there, I was absolutely devestated. I wanted to leave him so bad, but being 6 months pregnant, I could not. I ended up telling both his family and my family that he had gone to Cuba alone. Everybody asked me the same question.....Is he cheating on you? My husband swears up and down that he was not cheating on me and that he needed the vacation. Since he has come back, we have had our ups and downs, but I am trying really hard to forget about the pain he caused me in order to stay healthy througout the duration of my pregnancy. Every now and then though, I think about what he did to me and why and during what was suppposed to be one of the most precious times in my life, and I get so angry with him. He gets mad now every time i bring it up, so I am too scared to even bring it up to him anymore, because I just do not want to argue. He says he loves me and that he is excited to have a family with me and I do believe him, but how can somebody who loves you, do what he did to me? Am i being naive or stupid? Somebody help me, please!