Hey all,
     This is my first time ever using a site like this or asking strangers for help but I need advice from a non-involved outsider. My husband and I have been together 3.5 yrs. he went on deployment last year and we had quite a few problems. He acted like it was a chore to talk to me and as a result I shut off my emotions towards him so as to not feel pain for the remainder of deployment. Well, he's back and has been for 7 months and things still aren't the same. I don't feel sexually attracted to him. He's bent over backwards trying to fix things. Our relationship is wonderful minus the sex aspect. Crummy part is that I know thats a major part and he's starting to become impatient waiting for me to figure things out. I wanted sex like crazy yesterday but when I got home to him, the desire faded fast. I think I may have friend-zoned him and can't bring him out of it. He's like my best friend and I love him dearly so the thought of losing him is hard. I just don't want to keep hurting him. What should I do? Will that attraction ever come back or is there a way to make it? Please help!

You are so right about emotional and physical closeness being tied together.  It is hard to be romantic and resentful at the same time!