I'm 26 and my husband is 34 we married a year and a half ago the sex used to be great before we got married but now it maybe once every 2 weeks when he wants it it hurts and I feel very rejected when he turns me down. I try to be romantic fun or even creative but he's never in the mood. He has put me down for my recent weight gain which I'm trying to lose. He use to want it all the time but has told me he has no sex drive. I would never cheat and I know our marriage isn't about sex but I thought that was a bonus in a marriage. What am I doing wrong help please.

Sorry you're going through this. I know it's especially discouraging to be facing issues with intimacy so early in your marriage. :( But, know that at least you're not alone! And, I think the suggestion above about pursuing therapy is a great one. It's so hard to know the reasons why a spouse might behave like this and I think a counselor can dig a little deeper and find out what's really going on. Also, I wondered if you might also want to bring this up with your doctor or see if your husband would be willing to discuss it with his doctor? It never hurts to rule out any medical issues that could be bringing this on. Lastly, if you're interested, I work at Focus on the Family and I noticed one of their counselors offered some advice on this topic in another community. So, you might want to check it out here. Seems like she gave some good insight into why a husband might not be interested in sex... Well, I hope you're able to get some help for this issue. Hang in there!

I have been going through this for almost 9 years of marriage. If he starts this way it doesn't get better, that has been my experience. I haven't had sex in over a year now. We have 3 kids, you didn't mention kids? That always gets in the way, but if you don't have kids I think you may have a problem. Our problems started with the kids and and just progressed.