It takes my husband a LONG time to reach orgasm and ejaculate, sometimes he doesn't at all.  As a result, we both tend to avoid intercourse frequently because it just turns into a exercise in frustration.  My husband has no chronic health problems, but does tend to drink a lot of beer.  Does anyone know of anything that can help with such a problem?

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my concern.  Most of the time he is unable but on occasion he will after a loooong period of time.  Even then, it is not until the following morning after starting at night when we try to finish and even then, only rarely does he ejaculate vaginally.  On the rate occasion that ejaulation comes, it is 99% if the time with some other form of stimulation.  Yes, he is often intoxicated.  Maintaing an erection was the problem a few years ago, but in the last couple of years, maintainaing the erection has not been the issue, getting rid of it in a pleasurable manner.  I really don't believe that the problem is any unresolved issues, but we do not have sex infrequently as a result of his physical problem.  I guess I have always known that our sex problems are a result of his alcohol comsumption but I'm hoping to find a solution that I can control because if I wait for him to stop drinking....it ain't happenin'!