No trouble initiating here. I just take most or all of my clothes off, walk over to him and ask if he would like to scratch my itch. LOL. Or I get a toy out and start playing with it in front of him. Or I ask him what he thinks about these new skimpy panties I just got...you know like if he wants to take them off. Unzipping his pants and doing things to him works as well.
Yeah I agree DC,
It's really become a cliche to say that women need all this time and what not to get turned on. It's just not true. I think this silliness is passed off as fact because a lot of women these days are doing the career thing, trying to take care of kids and then trying to have a marriage too. I just don't think we were built for that.
I mean remember when you were a teenager? At least for me, all it took was seeing Tom Cruise take his shirt off in Far and Away (also saw his butt) and I was good to go. Or if my boyfriend kissed my neck just once. It didn't take a long round of foreplay. And I thought about it a lot more.
And DC you're right, when affairs happen the lover doesn't have to spend large amounts of time kissing her up and down. Just the sound of his voice on the phone and her panties need changing.
I mean I see some good looking women married to some guys who really gained some weight. I can see visual stimulation going out the door then I guess.
I think some women just don't think enough about sex because we're so busy or have emotional issues we're dealing with. Guys can compartmentalise better than women I think and so even if they're having a tough time, they can think about sex and even use those thoughts as an escape whereas women seem to do the opposite and let a tough situation trap them from thinking about it...which traps them from having it. That's bad because when something bad happens in life, sex is a great way to relax and relieve some stress.
And I'm done.