Feel free to start discussions about sex here. I do have a Sex Q & A blog at

http://joebeam.com/sex_blog/.

However, it would be more interesting for me to answer here where people could discuss my answers (agree or disagree) as well as share their own.

Better sex is a great benefit of the hormone pellets. The hormones are also supposed to give me more energy. Still waiting for that!

I think that in a loving marriage there shouldn't be an initiator. Each should aggressively show desire, love, kindness, attraction and passion to the other. I can even see emotional damage in situations where one person is regularly and almost always the initiator. It's worth it to swallow pride or nerves or whatever it may be to initiate sex with him.

Him saying he's "tired of being the initiator" should be a warning sign I think. He's tired of being the one to show that kind of desire for you and even risk of rejection. In his mind it has been worth the risk of rejection because he wants that oneness with you, but eventually it begins to look to the initiating spouse that it's not wanted enough to initiate to the non-initiator. I'm just saying there are some very bad things that can come from this. Step up and show your husband your sexual interest. It will translate as love, intimacy, kindness, respect and passion.

For us, sex became AMAZING while we still in the seminar! The more more we communicated and talked (both verbally and nonverbally), the more my lack of aggression changed. I never realized that I had so much bitterness and stress of every day life was keeping me from fully pleasing my husband.

Well, thanks to the 1st day that all changed! We throughly enjoyed one another for the 1st time in a long time...and since then, we have been more aggressive with each other (both verbally and nonverbally), I took us a minute to get it right that making love began looong before we made it too the bedroom!

Do you think he might be willing to talk with me?