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I'm sorry things are bad for your marriage right now. If it is stress, the best thing you can do for him is not add any more stress. And DON'T hound him about sex right now. I understand he hasn't initiated it in a year so, there is definately something going on there. Maybe in a month or so, when you see his "stress" has gone down some, you can bring up the sex issue. And when you do, don't get defensive or say negative things like you have been. If he still isn't willing to change then maybe you need to find a good, reputable sex therapist in your area.

    Yes there is help for you and remember you're not alone! My wife had an affair a year ago with some guy she met online playing cards. They became friends and one thing lead to another. She felt the way you are feeling now. She felt unloved, not wanted, we had no closeness, no love making or sex, or what you may call it. A MAN DOES NOT UNDERSTAND A WOMAN 100% AND therefore he really should learn now before it is too late. If a woman steps out of her marriage, 9 times out of 10 it is because she is not happy what so ever. This is what may help you get his attention ,go to him and tell him that you are 100% unhappy and no longer wanting to live with the feeling of being unloved and empty inside. Tell him that you don't feel like a wife or girlfriend anymore. Let him know that if he continues this relationship this way that you're going to want to separate for a while. Men need to hear that their marriage is failing before they wake up. Men should always date their wife like they are still boyfriend and girlfriend, and believe me if you two can do this you will be amazed as how much love you will find and the respect that will come with it. There's one more big thing women have a hard time going to their husband about. Women are not being pleased when their husband ejaculates too soon and they are afraid to say anything to their husband. So if he is doing this, you need to let him know this immediately. Whatever you do, do not step out with a another man and have an affair thinking this is the better life, because it will come back to bite you and you will have a hard time forgiving yourself. He may not be the same man I was and be forgiving or take on the responsibility and say it was partly his fault that he dropped the ball on his wife. You see my wife did not come to me with all these feelings you are having with your husband. Trust me, go to him now and put it all on the table. Hold nothing back and you will see after a short time of him taking this in day after day he will realize that he is about to lose his wife. That alone will make a husband come to his senses real quick and he will love the fact that you came to him first. Let him read this post, maybe it will help.

If you would like to speak specifically with me about this, please send me a direct message on this forum site. I'll help if I can.