This was helpful in reading because I have been trying to get my husband to go to this workshop but wasnt sure if manipulation would bite me later or not?  It is because of my infidelity that he has filed for divorce. We have been separated for 7 weeks and I have really worked at changing my life and I know that he is the man I love and want to be with. He loves me but does not know how to trust me ever again. The first time I brought up this seminar he didnt shut it down right away but said he would call the guy that I have been talking too, that was a week ago and he hasnt called still. He met me the other day to give me divorce papers and told me that he does not want to go because he does not see the point. That we are past the point of no return and he doesnt want to spend the money or the time off of work to go "with me" to something that he would rather work through on his own time without someone shoving this down this throat.  I said I understand but you would please just call this guy there and hear about what its about before deciding. He said he would. I told him it was not a seminar to fix the marriage but to work on ourselves and that I really wanted to go. I would even pay for it.  It has been 3 days since he has said he would call and he hasnt yet. I dont want to ask him again, or nag, because I know he doesnt want to go.  However he is asking me every day to sign the divorce papers and the quick claim deed that gives him the home. I do not want to because since we have no children it is only 30 days until the divorce goes through.  I have been thinking that I would tell him that I will sign the home over to him if he agrees to go to this with me. But he is HUGE on sensing manipulation and I want to remain respectful and submissive to him, yet if this is a small hope at saving our marriage then I want to do whatever it takes. He wants to "hurry up and get this divorce over with" so maybe he would agree to it if it means me signing the house over to him quickly so he doesnt have to look into getting it appraised and selling etc..... suggestions????  Has anyone had to use this kind of tactic or something similiar and what was the spouses reaction? Some people tell me that I dont want him to go with me if he does not "want" to be there but I have heard from the others testimonies that there are lots of people who dont want to be there but atleast they are hearing it right? Confused as to how to handle this situation? Dont know if I am rushing ahead of Gods plan and taking into my own or really just trying to do everything possible to save this marriage.  His friends, family, boss, partners would all greatly discourage him from going with me....

My wife and I just returned from the workshop over the last weekend.  We have only been home a couple of days.  It is beyond amazing.  While at the workshop, on Saturday, we both knew it was over, and I tried to leave.  Circumstances prevented that, and we now know that what was over was the way the relationship had been.  That evening, still gritting our teeth, we went to dinner, and I will never know how, but the healing began.  We were different people the next morning.  And, for our friends who we came to love over a couple of days time, you need to know that on Sunday evening, we began to fall in love again.  When it happened, we immediately began to hold hands, and have been doing it ever since.  I never want that to end, and I haven't smiled this much since I was a kid at Christmas.  Maybe more.  As we growing closer together, we remember our new friends, and pray for you daily.