This is a last ditch effort to salvage my marriage. I’m 33 years of age. I’m living a situation that contradicts every fiber of my being, and is consuming my marriage like a disease. My wife of seven years is 49 years of age. Her children who all live at home consist of three sons and a daughter, in their 20’s and 30’s. None of them besides the daughter is or intends to be employed. They all have children or a child of their own. My problem is that my wife shelters them in every way, shape, and form from any and all responsibilities and consequences. They know that all they have to do is sit there, and in the end mom will take care of it all because she doesn’t want them to suffer. We have contributed to their advancement, (Cars, Phones, ect.) but they destroy everything, and what they are not given they take. What’s confusing is that although my wife agrees, she resents me. It’s like she just wants me to sit down, shut up, and continue to allow her to do nothing, and the kids to do and take as they please with no consequence and no consideration for me or our marriage, or our financial future. It has gotten to the point now where my marriage is being destroyed because I cannot tolerate the situation.  I need help desperately, and immediately. The only logical solution seems to be to divorce, but I love her. I write this letter in my truck because the apartment that I moved us to for some peace and quiet has no electricity. The house and apartment electric is in my name but the kids owe $901. Her solution is the following: Have the kids’ dad connect the house in his name, and have me connect the apartment with another company. I can’t go with another provider because I don’t have the money for a deposit. I need a hefty deposit because I owe another company $876 for the last time the kids didn’t pay. Either way, I’m  $1777 in debt with two electric companies, and my wife isn’t coming home until power is restored which I don’t have money to do. I’m at my wits end. PLEASE HELP

Unfortunately, sometimes you have to decide whether an issue is a deal breaker. If you continue to let them do what they are doing, you will continue to get what you are getting. You must stand up for what is right. If you lose your wife over it, you've really lost her already, don't you think?