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 on: Today at 06:00:38 PM 
Started by anamin - Last post by anamin


He said peace be upon him: ((covered pot and Okioa allantois, the year he is staying the night and B, does not pass Baina not cover it, or not to drink it and the trick, but it came down from the epidemic)) Narrated by Muslim

We have proved the modern medicine that the Prophet peace be upon him is obviously the first of the rules of hygiene Balahtraz infection epidemics and infectious diseases, has been shown that infectious diseases apply in certain seasons of the year, but some of them appear every certain number of years, according to accurate system does not know explained so far .. Examples include: measles, polio, abound in September and October, and typhoid in the summer but a lot of cholera, they take the course every seven years .. And smallpox every three years
This explains the scientific miracles in the words of the Prophet peace be upon him: ((The year is staying the night and B)) .. Any seasonal epidemics and have certain times. It is also peace be upon him, had pointed out the most important ways to prevent disease in his interview: ((Fear the ants (the dust) is the Aura (ie, microbes))) is the scientific facts that were not known until after the discovery of the microscope, some infectious diseases transmitted by droplets and dust-laden air, referred to in the modern Baldhir .. Microbe and the atoms when the dust carried by the wind and bringing the patient to the right .. This is the label of the microbe is a healthier aura label, was between - Turquoise Abadi - in his dictionary that the Aura launches the smallest animal, is no secret that the microbe Mtcef movement and life .. The microbe named Paljrthom Vtzmah do not apply to the named because the germ of all origins, even the wood grain and this medical miracles brought by the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him great glory to my Lord, who know that Prophet Muhammad fourteen centuries ago

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 on: Today at 05:59:23 PM 
Started by anamin - Last post by anamin
AIDS .. How dealt with Islam? A new vision

Statistics says that Islamic countries are the least affected by the AIDS epidemic, and assert that the reason for this is due to the teachings of Islam is strong and rigid, which directly contributed to the reduction of the epidemic, and this confirms that Islam is a religion of mercy .. to read ....

STDs are diseases of the most difficult to treat. The medical literature confirms that these infectious diseases are most prevalent in the world. It is not surprising if we know that each year become infected with gonorrhea more than a quarter of a billion people in the world!
Of serious diseases caused by sexual relations forbidden herpes, one of the most serious sexually transmitted diseases due to infection by the speed, it is transmitted through direct contact with the patient and the use of special tools. As a result of rampant immorality and the declaration by the spread of new diseases have not heard of before, such as tumor Alguenbita Almatf, and molluscum mollusc diseases and many other things.
The truth of God Almighty when he told us about the consequences of adultery and disadvantages, he said: (32. And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [ie anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way ( that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).) [Isra: 32]. Habib Rahman and ratified peace be upon him when he said (and showed them obscene only one card including death) [Narrated by Tabarani]. The question is: if the Prophet peace be upon him say things from himself, then how he knew that the disease will lead to death such as AIDS?

Statistics
 We note that today there are 40 million people infected with AIDS in countries around the world, and also note that the Arab and Muslim world almost free of the epidemic, do not you think with me that Islam teachings only able to protect the insured from the virus, where the inability of the West, its means and its tools and capabilities?
How did the virus to the body?
The direct cause is sexual intercourse or homosexuality, and can enter this virus from an infected person to another through saliva by kissing, or through the blood of wounds in the skin or through mucous membranes in the nose, for example. New studies also show that AIDS is spread through the tears of the eye, and the urine and feces, sweat does not contain the virus. Even if HIV-infected mother will be transferred infection to her infant through the milk.
 
Electron microscope image of the AIDS virus HIV-1 and show that this virus is very small and very weak, but divine weapon directed against those who commit immoral actions and declare them, researchers have been unable despite the billions they pay for a cure for this virus is despicable!! Source image
 http://phil.cdc.gov/phil/home.asp
The symptoms of this disease
According to medical studies that the virus may remain in the body 15 years ago to exercise his attack. The disease often begins with flu-like and then develop into a headache, extreme fatigue, and there are people who do not show any symptoms of the disease, but Ebagthm abruptly. Then the disease progresses in the form of lymph node.
Most of the symptoms before the disease are the most popular such as tiredness, fatigue, dry cough, pneumonia, fever and sweat of repeated weight loss and color patches in the skin or in the nose or tongue. In addition to severe diarrhea and loss of memory, depression and neurological disorders and a variety of skin ulcers and anal.
 
Picture of some of the results of AIDS are skin ulcers cancer killer of the owner because of the AIDS virus, this virus, the body loses immunity and make him lose the ability to cope with disease, and if God wants to give us an indication that your body that has honored by God to be used for good and keep it and give you God's power , while those who commit immoral actions, and declare it has shed upon them the weakest creature of them lose their strength and immunity, a result of not responding to the call of God and disobey his command.

Not obvious to a serious disease, which emerged recently as a result of homosexuality, adultery and the resulting drug abuse, even sexual diseases are considered the deadliest and most pain and pain. The surprise when we learned that the Holy Prophet (PBUH) told us about this before it happened four centuries.
Says the Holy Prophet peace be upon him: (not shown in the outrageous people who never even declare only one card including the plague and pains that were not passed to their ancestors who have passed on) [Narrated by Ibn Majah]. This mean that the immorality of adultery and the like any of the homosexual if the outbreak and spread in the nation and declared it, it must be spread diseases that were not known or familiar from before, and this is what actually happened.

It was a most serious consequences of immorality and adultery in the modern era of so-called HIV (AIDS), also caused frequent immorality of many diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, which appeared an epidemic of sexual and widespread, even if the incidence of this disease in the United States amounted to more than half a million casualties.
 
Scientists are constantly studying HIV and to know the secrets held by many, are engaged electron microscopy and advanced laboratories and spend billions of dollars, and made fun of all their energy, and although it unable to fight the creature can hardly see!! How would these atheists to Allah Almighty the Day of Resurrection?? What will they say to him? In that is a lesson for those who have a heart or hearing a martyr!!

Islamic countries are the least affected and the reason is Holy!!!
Researchers say today that the Islamic countries are the least affected by this virus because of the teachings of Islam which forbids adultery and strongly mixing and look at the taboo. Look at me and my beloved to these verses, which refines the soul and the slaves of Allah's fear of the consequences of adultery, this is our Quran and this is our religion:

1 - the worst way is the path of adultery, scientists have proved the dire consequences of haraam kinds, and therefore the Almighty says: (32. And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [ie anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin )], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).) [Isra: 32]. Consider with me how much this verse kept the faithful through evil, and how their profound psychological effect on the same insured, which contributed to the reduction of HIV infection to the limits of close to zero. Statistic, even if we have to people who apply these verses in their lives and walk the straight path of God, we find that the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases have a zero! This shows the sincerity of the words of beloved peace be upon him when he asserted that the outrageous If you see will appear with the disease, ratified, O Messenger of Allah!

2 - scholars assert NLP, psychologists and researchers in medical ethics that the best way to treat the phenomenon of rampant adultery, incest and homosexuality is that the thinking man the negative consequences of this behavior, and he says to himself and decides that he would change his approach and tries to write it on paper and writes that he will not insist on this behavior, but seeks to change. We say this not as commanded by the Qur'an fourteen centuries ago? Look with me to this verse is wonderful, and that was the reason (with the rest of the verses) in the deportation of Muslims from adultery and immorality, Allah says: (and who, if they did obscene or wronged themselves, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins and forgive sins but God did not insist on what they did and they know) [Al-Imran: 135].

3 - Today, scientists are trying to develop solutions to reduce the spread of AIDS, and agree that the best way is to stay away from all kinds of immorality. They stress that scare the adulterer is the best way to prevent him from practicing immorality, and this is what do the Quran! But scientists intimidating people from the consequences of adultery, standing at the end of AIDS, backed by death, and this method was not effective at all did not contribute to the reduction of HIV prevalence rates remained high, because this kind of intimidation does not affect the soul.

But God Almighty who created the souls which I know by and including repairs may fear a manner responsive to them directly, he said: (68. And those who invoke not any other ilah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such life as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
) [Al-Furqan: 68-69].

 Look with me to this horrifying intimidation (and he will abide therein in disgrace) The soul may bear the death or AIDS or other diseases, but will never tolerate immortality in the humiliating torment. The evidence on the effectiveness of the divine, the statistics say that less is the proportion of HIV infection in Islamic countries, and this physical evidence of concrete on the strength of the teachings of Islam.
But psychologists also propose a second technical which is the principle of carrots, that is, we want people and explain to them the positive results of the reluctance of adultery and get away from immorality and homosexuality, through to explain to them life clean and quiet and good health that will get them if Stay away from immorality.

The Glory of God! This is what the Qur'an in the following verse, Allah says: (70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds, for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.) [Al-Furqan: 70]. God and I say to you: Is religion that forbids its followers from evil and wants to have a good life and good health, and want them for purity and to avoid disease, anxiety and stress, do you like this religion fit to call it a religion of terror? It is a religion of love, tolerance and morality and love.

Strange incident
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) had taken place with strange incident when a man came he asked for permission to allow him to adultery! How merciful the Prophet addressed this imbalance? Did not rebuke him, curses him did not beat him, but he was both merciful Raava said to him: (Do you Trdah to your mother)?
Moved here and emotion the man and said: No, O Messenger of Allah! He continues to focus on the greatest lover of this psychological and emotional side says: (Do you Trdah to your daughter)? The man repeated his rejection of it. It remains the Prophet peace be upon him lists his closest people to him and thus addressed his nature sound says: (Do you Trdah your aunt, your aunt, your sister ...) until he became the man hates adultery after these questions.

And then the Holy Prophet said: (and also people are not whom they approve of their parents)! And out of the man contentedly assured, this is the Prophet's method in the treatment of incurable diseases, where are the sociologists and education today, the Prophet of this method in the treatment of diseases of wonderful self?
Allah says: (21. O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan), then, verily he commands Al-Fahsha '[ie to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse , etc.)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (ie to do evil and wicked deeds; to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam, etc.)]. And had it not been for the Grace of Allah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower.) [Nur: 21].

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 on: Today at 05:55:31 PM 
Started by anamin - Last post by anamin

Brother sister husband wife ....
Peace, mercy and blessings of God and After ..
, Each one of you have rights and duties of the other, and these rights are fixed in the Shar-Hakim; because Allaah says: {And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable} [Baqarah: 228].
And he peace be upon him said: "you for your wives and your wives you really really" Narrated by Tirmidhi and classed.
The wife on her husband many rights including:
1 - is the greatest right of protection against fire
This consideration and take the good and Nhiaha evil said: ((6) O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded) (prohibition: 6), as well as urging them to special prayer the Almighty said: ((132) And enjoin prayer upon your family [and people] and be steadfast therein. We ask you not for provision; We provide for you, and the [best] outcome is for [those of] righteousness) (Taha: 132). As I have a wife who does not pray should be left to her husband and also a paradox here does not pray may not stay with her ...
And protection parents: to urge them to wear hijab and chastity.

2 - to spend on her:
Alimony to the wife and clothing of the rights due to the wife and hyper a lot of people, and said peace be upon him who asked him about the wife's right to it (to feed her if exposed and capped if Akedzit or acquired, and hit his face and ugly and abandoned only in the House) Narrated by Abu Dawood.
Promotion of Virtue and the maintenance and what is customary in the country. With the care of the money man's land,
* Maintenance of the wife a great reward, he said the Messenger peace be upon him: (If a man spent, it is his charity) and agreed that if he wanted them for the sake of God and will improve it.

3 - not to beat her for no reason
Hit the wife in case of nushuz and glory on her husband, Do not hit in the face and beat her at all but a glancing blow by tooth brushing your teeth(alsewak) he said: ((34) Men are in charge of women by [right of] what All h has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what All h would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], www.Islambasics.com forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, All h is ever Exalted and Grand.) (women: from verse 34).
Not be in the face, said peace be upon him: (and hit his face and ugly and abandoned only in the home) Narrated by Abu Dawood.
 
4 - not only in the abandoned house
Do not abandon your wife is in the house they come out and lose it or leave it in her family's house, and this abandonment between you boys do not feel you there so do not get anything from allergies, and affected children when they see the father hit their mother or abandoned.
He said peace be upon him: (and hit his face and ugly and abandoned only in the home) Narrated by Abu Dawood.
5 - Do not say your face is ugly:
You need to go to take into account the feelings of a husband and wife with utter verbally Hassan does not hurt feelings and ugly terms that come not worthy, he said, peace be upon him: (and hit his face and ugly and abandoned only in the home) Narrated by Abu Dawood.

6 - justice between wives
The husband must treat his wives, and be justice in the Many things, including: food and drink, clothing, housing and accommodation, is not required section is not his love and the like, have warned that peace be upon him no justice he said: (he had two women did not treat them equally. The day of resurrection One Hqih a lapsed or tilted).

7 - Not publish the secrets of the wife
Of the rights of the wife on her husband not to disclose her secret and not to mention a defect therein; as is the Secretary upon and demands care, and the greatest evil publish what is going on between them if Beauty and the like, for saying peace be upon him: "The most evil of people with God, the status of the Day of Resurrection will be a man to his wife and him, then he spreads her secrets. "Narrated by Muslim.
8 - to assist them in her home
One of the things desirable and that are happy wife, and Trihha from the fatigue of the house, was narrated that 'Aa'ishah said: "The Messenger of God; if he entered the house Kahdkm sewing clothes and works Kahdkm) Bukhari, and in the novel: (He was to be his profession, his means the service of his family If prayer came out to pray. "

9 - to assist them in raising children
Many couples leave the burden on the children's mother pays no attention to them, and certainly this is not true, but it should be on the couple's cooperation to raise the construction proper education.
10 - let her go out if needed for that
The husband should allow his wife to go out if needed to visit of her family, relatives and neighbors as well as if I asked his permission to go out to the prayer group and she is going out legally so as not to affect the good and not go adornment seduced by men, it is the year to allow her to, but should advise her that her prayer in her house, her best.

11 - out of jealousy:
Be zealous in her religion and display the qualities of jealousy, particularly gallant men holy, and enable it speaks volumes about the real solidity in a position of true and noble manhood.
This does not mean mistrust of women, Search, behind every crime without suspicion.
It was narrated from Jabir ibn Otaik said: The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him: ((The jealousy of the other hated by God and is jealous of the man on his family is suspicious)) [Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawood, and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Alroa].
 
12 - satisfy the sexual desires
Women have sexual instincts and desires of the husband must fulfill in order not to Go to of the forbidden, and many couples do not care about anyone but himself, and then when Rgith sexual relieved to leave the wife and this is a mistake, you must wait until The wife also enjoy...
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: men must have sex with his wife Virtue; assure a right to it: the greatest of the feed. And intercourse should be said that it is the duty of every four months time. It was said that as far as their need and ability; fed as much as their need and ability. This is more correct opinions. Uh

13 - thanks to the actions of its work
For the husband is thanking his wife on its service and education to his children, narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet peace be upon him said: (do not thank Allah does not thank people) Narrated by Abu Dawood and Ibn Hibbaan, Ahmad and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al [7719]
14 - with harm and patience on the issue of things
The husband has to bear the harm his wife and left out for many of them, which will give a mercy and the compassion God has ordered the de facto Virtue said: {And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and All h makes therein much good. } [Women: 19].

Warning
My husband's wary of:
* Ensure outside the home
Many couples can not afford to sit at home and ensure a lasting along time out causing marital problems, many do not care about the feelings of the wife so they gave a single wall of her room, and this is not sending her ... Has said peace be upon him for the companion who is fast on the day and night (if you really have to your family).
Beware to stay up for long hours and leave your wife alone.
* Beware of the long absence in travel:
May travel a husband for his work or other things, per ton has to take into account the travel to be as short as possible, when he spent his command returned to his family said peace be upon him: (travel piece of suffering, prevents any one of his food and drink and sleep, if he spent any of you Nhmth of face, Vlajl back to his family) Narrated by Ahmad and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani.

Perhaps six months would be appropriate for the absence, and it will not Omar may Allah be pleased with him over the house from the houses of Muslims heard a woman inside the house sings:
 Says verses Poem from feeling sad to the absence of her husband a long period of time
Asked Omar may Allah be pleased with him reported he was told that her husband is absent for the sake of Allah, so he sent it back to her husband to it, and entered upon his daughter Hafsa asked her: How can a woman bear her husband? Said: Praise God, you ask me about this?! She said five months, six months, stood Omar and said do not miss a man from his family for more than six months.

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 on: Yesterday at 03:22:50 AM 
Started by Lonelywifey999 - Last post by confused2011
so sorry to hear what u r going thru. i have 25 yrs under my belt as a married man so i think i can speak a little on the subject. marriage is a 2 way street, if only one partner is working to make things happen it will never work. people go thru parts of there life were they are depressed either over money a job bills or just the everyday rat race of life. if he does not say i love you or hug or kisses you he has problems. you should not stop doing what you think is right. do all you can to save your marriage and you and only you will know when the relationship is over. if you have tried your best there is nothing to feel sorry about. your child will be stronger knowing they have a strong parent in you that will make the right decision for them and you. it sounds like your trying so follow your heart and i hope it works out for you. Hi

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 on: Yesterday at 02:17:45 AM 
Started by Lonelywifey999 - Last post by Lonelywifey999
Long story short... Married nearly 4 years, 3 year old child together.  Lots of stress... Some physical abuse towards me.   (happened 15 months ago, has been forgiven) One day out of the blue he says he doesn't love me anymore.  That's where it all began...

Started staying out late, or all night.  Getting drunk, getting in fights!!! Going out every night.  We tried counselling, which didn't help.  Now I feel the gap between us is just gotten so big it's irreparable.   I was so sad for so long and now I almost feel numb to it.  Like I don't even care...Love is gone I think.  He is nice when he wants to be intimate but that's all.  I feel like... We are just so different now.   I get sad thinking about how we used to be but, feel like I just have to let that go.  When it's all said and done and we are apart I might break down,  when it all becomes real. 

All the advice I get is "just get divorced already".  So insensitive!! A part of me has died!!!!

The problem is... He keeps saying "everything will be fine".  He won't discuss anything.  He just says he doesn't want to argue.  So we don't talk about it.  We don't say I love you, we don't kiss or hug. 

I would say I regret ever getting married but,  I'm so blessed to have a beautiful daughter that lights up my life.  She's the only good that came of it.  I regret everything else.  I'm so lonely!!!

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 on: February 01, 2012, 11:35:16 AM 
Started by Mommy2madi - Last post by Mommy2madi
I just joined today because I just don't know what to do.  My husband of only 2 years came home Saturday afternoon to tell me he dosnt want to be with me anymore.  He said he has been unhappy with me from the beginning of our relationship, and that he hasn't been in love with me for a long time. 

He really didn't show any signs of being unhappy until this past month.  He is in a new band full of single men...they have been playing a lot of shows lately.  On Jan 7th, he wasn't home when I woke up, so I called around to see if he was ok.  He called around 11am claiming he had too much to drink, and stayed with a band member.  The very next weekend, he didn't come home until 8am...he said he was at denny's.  Then this Saturday, he showed up at 2pm Saturday afternoon after playing friday night...then dropped this bomb on me.

I've tried talking to him about trying to work it out, seeing a marriage counselor, and trying to get where we use to be...he just won't listen.  He isn't acting like the person I know and love.  I'm really worried about him right now.  He hasn't even mentioned anything about him being unhappy, or leaving me to he family or his friends that he has known his entire life.

I've talked to a few of our mutual friends, and they just cant believe what is happening either.  He stopped wearing his wedding band, and only comes home to shower before work.  He claims he is sleeping at the recording studio.  I just don't know what to do anymore.  I am not ready to give up on him or our family.  Our daughter is only 18 months old, and she just walks around the house crying for him.

I just don't know what changed so suddenly, and why he is just pushing everyone away that cares for him.  He tried to say I made him move in with me, ask me to marry him, and made all of the decisions about the house.  None of that is true.  He would constantly tell everyone how much he loved me, and is so thankful to have me in his life.  He was even still saying these things last month.

None of it makes sense to anyone right now.  I really need help.  I cant let my marriage die when I know it's right.

Kristin


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 on: January 31, 2012, 10:37:02 AM 
Started by paulah05 - Last post by paulah05
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 on: January 31, 2012, 08:51:51 AM 
Started by ViszlaDad - Last post by ViszlaDad
my wife is pushing for divorce and I'm fighting it. Married for 18 years with a 6 year old son I can't believe her when she says she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I cannot get an answer from her that I find believable and though I've searched I can't find evidence of an affair. She's very shut down emotionally and when trying to ask she just keeps saying she doesn't have feelings for me. We went to a counselor here locally where she restated her desire for a divorce and she made it clear she is not interested in reconciliation. She only wishes to return to the counselor to discuss how to handle telling our son. I don't want to go back because I did not like the counselor - I found him cold and clinical and did not return my call when I contacted him afterwards to ask some questions.

I proposed going to the Marriage Helper seminar in 2 weeks and my wife said no. She doesn't want to go anywhere for a whole weekend she says. Per my discussion with Keith at Marriage Helpers I pitched it as a place we could go to learn about validating our decisions, get closure and also dealing with our son. Didn't work. I'll be calling Marriage Helpers again, but I'm wondering if anyone else has any ideas to get her to go?

 9 
 on: January 31, 2012, 07:21:29 AM 
Started by jundulms - Last post by jundulms
Hello members,

My name is Jun from Australia and I’m new here. I am glad to be a part of this forum and I look forward to sharing information with you guys and of course learning some things myself.

Hope to get some great tips here.

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 on: January 31, 2012, 07:19:38 AM 
Started by amialone - Last post by amialone
My wife and I have been married for a little over 3 years now. I have always and still do feel that she is the one that god wants me to be with. We have faced so many trials in our time together, and it seems like a fight every day. We lost our daughter at 6 months in January of 2010 to SIDS. We were in Germany (because she is military) and things have not been the same since. We moved to another area where she was restationed at, and are still here to this day. Last summer I found out that she cheated on me, but she cut contact and admitted she made a mistake. I thought things were getting better.

Recently I started noticing that something was still bothering her. I asked and she said she hasn't been happy for a while. She is telling me that she wants to get a place, and date each other, because she needs space. She says she doesn't want to date other people. She says there isn't another person. I believe this, and I want her to be happy. She has had medical issues for quite some time, ever since the pregnancy. She has been to the doctor at least once a month due to abdomen pain. She had a cyst on her ovaries that burst, and she has still been having abdomen problems. They can't tell her what it is.

Being a soldier I know that she is destined to live a stressed and busy life. I want to be supportive of this. I want to help, to be a husband. She is a very closed person though, and doesn't express feelings well. I have my share of flaws too. I feel I haven't quite been the man I promised to be, and overlooked myself to point out what she could do better. I am asking the lord to help me change this. I start counseling this week, to make myself a better person and let go of the past.

She gave me a book, called "The love dare" which I won't go into depth about, but feel free to look it up. It gives you 40 day to day challenges that remind you of what love, and marriage is about. I am on day 7. I have learned so much about myself in the last week that I feel I have been an idiot for 3 years. I am going to a councilor starting this week, and asking god for his guidance. I want to repent for my ignorance.

She has been looking at places for about a week, but I'm not sure what to do. She told me Saturday that she isn't really "feeling" the whole roommate thing by moving in somewhere else. Then she started talking about getting a new computer desk for our home. Not much after, I noticed her looking at places again. She has been spontaneous and erratic at times, but this confused me. Talking about new things for our home, and then still looking? She asked me what was wrong, and I told her that many times there are multiple solutions to one problem, you just have to find the best, and I didn't think this was the best. She said, "fine, I won't look anymore." She said this seeming a little agitated.

She had told me that she needs space, to let go of some of the anger she has towards me, and that was why she wanted to. I'm not sure if that's everything, but I choose to believe her. I want to add that neither of us have gone to talk to anyone about losing our daughter. Her unit made her go a few times, but then left it in her hands. She was forced to go to a therapist when she was young and now despises them, so she quit after the 2 or 3 sessions they made her attend in 2010. Any attempt to even recommend us going to a therapist is shot down immediately by her. I am changing as a man, this book, whether she or the lord wanted me to find knowledge in it, is making me look at my world and my actions in a different way. I just would like her to be there to see the difference.

I believe it's hard seeing a friend go through tough times and not being able to help them. Nor for a loved one, as my situation is. I don't want to be pushy, and I'm not sure what to do. I want her happy, and it honestly means so much to me. I've just had a skewed view on things for a while, like there was dirt in my eyes. I am washing it out now. Any recommendations or advice anyone could offer? Military life is crazy, but I accepted it as a husband. I love this girl, and although I know that she could find love in another, I don't believe they could love her like I could, or want to. I have so much intent in my heart, and I am becoming a better person.

Love, faith, and hope are in my heart. What can I do?

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