Hi, please be open-minded and willing to recieve this revelation. It will really help you.
In the beginning God made Adam a promise, that he would build or make a “Helper” that was tailor-made for him. God choose and made one that was fit for Adam. God did not tell Adam to go out and choose a wife and then bring her back to Him so he could bless it. This is what many people do nowadays, they choose who they want to marry and then expect God to bless their decisions. God established marriage by promise not by man’s works. In the beginning there was no pain and sorrow; pain and sorrow came because of their disobedience. Pain and sorrow comes because something is wrong, something is out of order. Pain and sorrow came as a sign of disobedience, whatever you sow you reap. Pain and sorrow came as a penalty not as a reward. Go back to Genesis, God told Adam and Eve “that in sorrow shall you eat of it all the days of your life [Genesis 3:17 (KJV)],” God cursed man’s wisdom. When you get pain in your body you go to the doctor to find out what is out of harmony, when harmony is restored then pleasure comes. Pain is a side-effect of things that are out of order. You do not marry and work to become one; you marry because you are one. If you are not one in the beginning you are not one at the end. If the inner nature in the male and in the female were never in harmony in the beginning; then it won’t be in the end. No man seeking for grapes goes to a thorn bush to get grapes. And God said, “A good tree cannot produce evil fruit [Matthew 7:16-20 (KJV)].” If you are not of like-kind in the beginning how can you be in the end? If you didn’t sow harmony in the beginning how can you reap harmony at harvest time? If you plant a cucumber you will not reap a watermelon. When Adam stated that Eve “was bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh,” he meant that Eve was a carbon copy of him, that she was one of like-kind, whose inner nature agreed with his. She was a true representation of him. When you put two people together whose inner nature does not match you get discord. Discord means anything that is not in harmony. Harmony is that which flows together in unison. Why would God have you in a marriage where there is no life, happiness, peace, love, etc…? You have been going around the same mountain over and over again for 12 years. Satan and man have rearranged God’s order, but God is putting it back in its proper place. Jesus said, “Every plant that my Father did not plant (marriage) will be rooted up [Matthew 15:13 (KJV)], and Jesus also said, “Every tree that brings forth not good fruit is cut down and cast into the fire (circumstances that are not good) [Luke 3:9 (King James Version)].” Is your marriage bringing forth good fruit? God is the wise master builder, He has laid the foundation (Jesus) and others build upon it, but let every man take heed how builds, because every man’s work shall be made known by test and trial. If his work survives he receives a reward, if it does not, it will be dissolved; but, he will be saved through the dissolving [1Corinthians 3:10-15].
Jesus said, “If a man build his house(family) upon sand: when the rain descended, when the flood came, and the wind blows upon it, it beats upon that house and great was the fall of it [Matthew 7:17-27 (KJV)],” because it was not built upon a rock but sand. The word of God says, “Except the Lord builds a house (family), the laborer labors but in vain [Psalms 127:1 (KJV)].” Did God build your family or did you build it? Did you choose your own or did God choose it for you? If you did the choosing according to your good pleasure; then, you built your family upon sand. But, if you sought God’s counsel, his will, and his purpose for your life, then your family would have been built upon a rock. God established marriage by promise not by man’s works. God said in Haggai, “Consider your ways (or take inventory of your circumstances) [Haggai 1:3-11; Haggai 2:17 (KJV)].” Because everyone has run to build or establish his/her own house (family) and not sought God’s face to establish the house (family). God had brought economic hardship upon them to get their attention. Did you build your family or did God? Pray to Jesus and ask him if you established it or if he established your family. Because what God has put together let no one put asunder.
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