Well, you could sit her down and just say it as nicely as you know how. If you do it in love and not in a "this is annoying" type of way then maybe she'll be more receptive to hearing what you're saying.

Communication is very important in every marriage relationship. It enables the couple to express their feelings and emotions to each other. It is the vehicle through which they convey their views on issues that concern them, thereby creating a sense of belonging and peace in the home.

 In marriage generally, all the talks about love or no love is centred on communication, 75% of which is non-verbal communication, which proves to be more powerful than the verbal type of communication. The facial communications, body communication, the sexual communication, are all forms of non-verbal communication in marriage. More so, effective communication demands that participants be skilled in these areas: clear thinking, careful listening, and careful reading of body language. It is not a case of trying to be defensive.

Sometimes in conversation, what people do, instead of listening to each other, is to think about what they are going to say next. This does not help effective communication. Communication is a typical language of love.

Are the problems you see all his fault? I'm wondering if that might be why he doesn't want to listen. What problems do you see the two of you facing?