Hi there,

I'm new here. I have several questions. I'm a newly wed, married the love of my life of 4 years 3 months ago. He's in the army and is currently deployed to GTMO for a year. We have a great relationship, beside a few flaws. No one is perfect. Mater of fact, I have control issues that I'm trying so hard to work on. I also have sever trust issues for I don't know what reason. Well, I take that back, I got developed this trust problem after my husband lied to me over very little, stupid things. I know he lied to me tonight. We were talking on the phone tonight for a few hours when he had to get of because his roommate needed to use the phone. They have to share a phone as it is a land lien. I didn't hear anyone in the background when my husband supposingly answered back "Ok ill get off" after we said good night and so on, I went on Facebook and noticed his roommate was saying that tonight was going to be a blast. I commented back what were they going to do and then my husband cominted a few minutes later " Ya bro we are going to be lazy tonight." I then noticed some of his other battle buddies were talking about getting together later tonight. Why would he lie to me about this? Is it because he knows I have a controlling issue and I'm also the jealous type? Please, I need some advice here. I don't want to ruin a beautiful marriage over jealously or control issues? I just wish he wouldn't tell me white lies. Should I be worried or let it go?

Thank you,