I'm in a bind.  My husband is a loner.  He wants nothing to do with friends or family.  I'm the complete opposite.  He just wants us to do things alone without other people.  I do like doing stuff with just him and have for 5 years, but I need other human contact too.  He dont care if I hang out with my friends and family but he says he don't want to go because he dont have fun or like being around people.  He thinks it's normal for him to isolate himself.  I understand he grew up in a messed up family and had bad experiences with friends, but it's not healthy for our marriage.  He says I used to not want friends and now I do.  After 5 years of not hanging out with anyone but my family, I started hanging out with friends again recently, but I would like my husband to go with me like their men do.  He could live the rest of his life not having contact with anyone but me.  I've never met anyone that doesnt want some interaction with the outside world.  We get into fights about this all the time.  All my friends and their husbands hang out together, go out to eat, ect, but I'm the oddball if I were to go around other couples alone.  He thinks it's normal to be a loner and that it doesnt have anything to do with having mental issues.  He's not controlling in any way, he just wants me to do it all alone, or only go somewhere with me around friends if he's messed up.  I told him it's not normal that he has to be messed up to interact with people.  We have no life and he's the only one keeping us from having any fun.  Fun to him is being drunk or high.  He dont drink except for every few months, but he hates not being high.  He'll go a day without smoking weed but that's all.  I want to have a life, with him.  He doesnt get it.  Therapists cant get through to him either.  He has PTSD but so do I.