we have been married almost a year and i have been lied to so many times about so many things i don't know what to do anymore.i have left a couple times and stayed gone for overnight but then i come back and he promises me that he will change and then in a matter of days its all back to the the same crap.i love him to death but what am i supposed to do  just give up and settle for what we have now or just leave i don't know I'm at my last strand of hair to pull out will someone please help me.

I don't know if we are talking about being a Christian here or not. Without  a true meaning of love and what lying is about, we can not really define what is and what needs to be done.

I am in a short term marriage where lying to me is very common. I am a Christian and try to never lie about situations or my feelings. I am very sure my wife is not a true Christian and therefore has no morals, to speak of and will do just about anything she feels is appropriate for the emotions she is feeling at the time.

Lying is a love killer. Trust is the most important thing between any two people but especially marrieds. I am now facing a divorce because she feels like it!

I just have to understand that liers are very good about telling you what they want you to believe until they change their story.

Sorry for your plight.

A relationship needs be begin with total 100% honesty ALL THE TIME.  If it does, total trust and respect can follow which cements whatever love is or was there after the passion has slowed down.
Since there is compulsive lying in your marriage, not much I can say other than: get professional help or LEAVE.

RE: i have left a couple times and stayed gone for overnight but then i come back
.... Perhaps you need some counseling to discover why you come back to such a mess.   

and he promises me that he will change and then in a matter of days its all back to the the same crap.
.... since you fall for it over and over, you may have to research: Codependency to see how to manage yours.
It's all back to the same crap because neither of you KNOW HOW to make a good, trusting, respectful relationship.  Research "relationships" on line or in books to learn how to make a good one.


i love him to death but what am i supposed to do  just give up and settle for what we have now or just leave
.... You may have to get honest with your self and realize that it's NOT LOVE.  More like codependent NEED.   
You don't 'settle' and you needn't 'leave'.  There's other alternatives like: counseling, professional help, relationship training, THERAPY, religion, hypnosis, or whatever you can find that is not surrendering or running away.

good luck 

i have beautiful articles that tackle this manner of problems in marriage and i will advice you to go through and put into practice some of the tips.

http://felixedet2000.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-modern-woman-can-tap-from-the-world-of-the-virtuous-woman
http://felixedet2000.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-keep-your-romance-alivemarriage-tips-and-advice
http://felixedet2000.hubpages.com/hub/-Between-Sex-and-Love-in-Marriage
http://felixedet2000.hubpages.com/hub/how-to-have-a-flourishing-marriage

Good luck.