My boyfriend and I have been living together for more that 5 years now, and we basically have a good relationship, lots of laughs and not much sex.

The advice I am seeking is weather or not accept my boyfriends proposition.  He has never had a child and want one very bad, I can give him one (I had an only child 25 years ago).  My boyfriend says he loves me does not ever want to separate from me, but he desperately wants a child. He says that if I agree he would have a child with someone else and that we both can be parents. Now that does not mean he would take the baby away from the mother, but he wants to include me and be part of his happiness with the child. He says that I am half of his happiness and the other half would be his child.

Now I have said no to all this, since the very beginning but he thinks I am selfish and I don't think so, but I want someone else's opinion. d

Well this makes no sense at all! Why in the world would he want to have another child by another woman?! Am I missing s/thing? B/c I thought that you said you could give him one.  I would say a big NO to this one! And who's to say that child is going to be raised by the 2 of you? You have been living together for 5 years but that's not a guarantee that you will always be together. Also, a red flag comes up when you say you're not having much sex, but he wants to have a baby by another woman. That, my friend, is ridiculous!! You may want to call him out on that one.

So, if I were you I'd stick w/ your answer...No.

Joanna

Isabel,

Can you give us an update?