Ok, so my wife and I moved to Chicago because I got accepted into a law school there. my financial aid paid for the bills while i was in school. i decided not to do it anymore after a year, and i got a job there. we worked hard to make ends meet, but we got the bills paid. due to the collapse of the mortgage industry, i lost my job and we moved to my wife's mother's home in another state until i could find a job and get on my feet.

While there, everything was ok at first. Until her mother and i got into a disagreement about me allowing her mother to get involved in our finances. The next day she told my wife and the other 2 people living in the house that I'm "not a man," and a "real" man wouldn't let their wife work and pay the bills. That pissed me off, but I couldn't start yelling back at her because (a) i didn't want to get my wife upset and (b) we had no place else to go. What really pissed me off was the fact that my wife really didn't stick up for me. She basically told her mom that I AM a man, and that she didn't know what she was talking about. But later that night, my wife and her mom were like best friends.

We moved out abt a month later and I got a job a month or so after that and we've been doing fine. I've been feeling betrayed and weird ever since then which was over 2 years ago...am i overreacting?

I agree w/ Joe on this. Your wife did stand up for you. The fact that it probably wasn't to your specifications is irrelevant. This is her mom after all, and you wouldn't have wanted her to yell and pitch a fit. But, I think she handled it fine. There is a thin line b/w family and what you can say and cannot say when your sticking up for your spouse. It was a delicate situation, but you saying nothing was the best thing to do.

I'm glad you found a job and you and your wife are out on your own now! But like Joe said, concentrate on what your wife did for you and move on.