Hi. My husband and I separated in Feb 2010 due to him having an affair with an old girlfriend he "reconnected" with on Facebook. After we separated , their relationship continued and she became pregnant. Their relationship ended in May/June 2010 and in August 2010 my husband  and I started working on restoring our marriage. However, the child was born a few weeks ago and she has been using this child to undermind and damage our marital progress in any way she can and my husband is falling for it. I have asked him to fully commit to restoring our marriage by putting his ring back on, going to counseling, going to church, etc. but he keeps saying he's not ready and I am running out of patience. I want a marriage that honors God and feel like if I stay with him right now I will be settling for less than that. I am posting this for advice and for prayers. Thanks!

Similar problem only thing we weren't separated while he was having the affair.  The child is almost five, I found out 2 years ago. My husband and I separated one year ago.  My husband is now taking care of the child, the other woman was deported.  Mind you I found about about the child by accident.  My husband claims he's sorry, doesn't want our marriage to end and wants to move back home.  The problem is we have been married for 16 years, have two children of our own and I have to from a previous relationship.  My youngest child is 13.  I have no desire to raise another woman's child.  Of course I am angry, hurt and devastated still by all the lies that he told me when I think about it in hind sight.  Let me say I love my husband but cannot find it in me to totally accept his child.  The trust is gone.  All his friends knew of his child 5 years ago and I had no idea.  Some days I'm depressed and other days I'm angry and hostile towards him.  I'm just at a loss right now never expected him to treat me this way and yet he still profess to love me, I just don't get it.