I stand in disbelief still to this day. I still find it hard to believe that my wife is capable of lying, sneaking and cheating but fact is she did it. I'm not even sure she saw it as an affair. She became friends with a man 19 years younger then her and was sucked in by his charm. Even though this guy was charming he was a known trouble maker. He has had several brushes with the law and seems to have been beat up a lot. Still my wife was attracted but I really don't think she thought it would go as far as it did.  I am sure he picked up on her fondness for him and he continued to hit on her. I believe it became a game for him. He finally suggested that she stop by his place sometime making it clear to her to come without me.

 She surprised him and took him up on his offer and while I was at work she drove over to his apartment.  He wasn't expecting her and was getting ready to go to work at the restaurant he worked at. She had called me just before calling him that day and sound a bit funny on the phone as she told me she was going shopping.  She called him from the parking lot of his apartment complex because she didn't know his apartment number. She called her best friend after leaving his place.  Phone records show me that she was there for about 20 or 25 minutes but that was long enough for him to kiss and grope her. This was on a Monday and he invited her back for Thursday when he would have more time.

What my wife didn't know was that I knew something didn't feel right and the next day decided to check the cell phone records online. There I saw a 2 minute phone call to him. I knew she had been acting strange and had been treating me badly for a while so instead of confronting her I decided to call him. He told me that she had called and invited him to lunch. This didn't make me happy because she had turned me down for a lunch date on that day. He said he turned her down because he had to work. When I got home from work I question my wife who for some reason denied asking him to lunch and then made up another reason for calling him. I should have put my foot down right then and there but instead I blew it off. It wouldn't have done much good though because the damage had already been done, I just didn't know at that time to what extent.

A month went by and all seemed with the exception of my wife constantly complaining of stomach aches and not feeling well. There was no sex during this time either. She was very distant and I noticed that every time we drove past the apartment complex that he lived in she would look toward it.  It happened to be fairly close to our house and on one of the major streets we would drive down.

One day at work about a month after the phone call incident I get a call from the young man. He tells me that my wife had been stopping by his place unannounced almost everyday for the past month. He tells me that she had been there that day trying to kiss him. I am shocked and walk out of work and go straight home where I find her in bed at 2pm. She wants to know what I am dong home. First thing I tell he is he had called me and told me that they had been having sex. Her eyes flew open wide and she yelled. "It was only a Kiss"

I could go on and on about the fog and all the trouble we had after that. She couldn't stand the fact the he had rejected her and continued to try to contact him. In her journal she blamed me for the rejection. It was my phone call a month earlier the ended the whole ordeal. Obviously the young trouble maker knew his game was up and abandoned his intentions to put a huge notch in his belt to boost his low self-esteem.  My wife on the other hand had been brain washed as if by the devil himself.

For the longest time I refused to believe my wife when she said it was just a kiss. The fact that I read in her journal that she didn't tell me everything really bothers me. I will always wonder what it was she didn't tell me. Maybe they didn't have intercourse but was there oral sex? She denied all this stuff back then but then again she proved to me she could lie with the best.  She continued to try to see him and call him for months after I found out. She made it very difficult for me to forgive.

This all happened about 5 years ago and somehow we stayed together. I still find it hard to trust her and part of me even wants to ask her for more details of her affair. Five years have past and to bring it up now seems a bit senseless. Why would I want to open the wound up again for her. Still I wish I had pressed for more details when I had the chance.