My husband is having a hard time believing me when I tell him that I want our marriage to work. He believes that I want the security, the money, and the stability that he supplies. He also thinks I am "just waiting" for things to cool off so I can contact the other guy that I had the affair with. I have told him otherwise and am trying to show him daily how much he means to me. And I have completely ended it with the other guy.

My husband honestly thinks that I am not trying to make things work between us when that is all I have been doing for the last month. YES, I admit that some of the choices I made between us were wrong. It's proving to be very hard to quit all  my negative learned behaviors and implement some positive new ones. And we are also dealing with a lot of emotional problems on my part about things that have happened to me in the past that I never realized were such an issue.

So I'm looking for any advice on things I can do to help him though this difficult time. Thanks in advance.

Good advice from stuck. These things take a while to get past. Continue to be completely honest and open. Tolerate his hurt as he learns to trust you again. This can work, but requires patience.