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kellidiane
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« on: July 05, 2010, 03:01:22 PM »

several weeks ago my husband told me he was attracted to a girl at work and had been for several months. Over the following days, more came out to he had a brief affair several months ago with her, but wasn't right now. Then the story continued that he was going back out on the road, truck driving, hopefully to get his head sraightened out. He knew he wasn't living for the Lord any more, but since he has cheated before in our marriage, he thinks he will never be the right kind of husband, so he won't plan on ever coming back to me anyway.  So - his words, not mine - he will stay with this girl because she is as pathetic as he is.  But he claims he hope that my praying and standing for our marriage really works.  He spent 4 nights with her and came back here - I guess to give me my 4 (there were 8 nights total before he leaves on the truck). When I figured out that he had been with her (he had told me he needed some space and was staying with Dan from work) - I told him to finish out his time at her house, because I wasn't interested in sharing.  What do I do here??  I must be a fool, but I have spent more than half my life with this man and when he is following God, it is wonderful and he is a powerful witness.  But he is off the deep end right now. Our kids are 29, 26 and 24 and we have 8 grandchildren.  He risks losing it all because our kids are hurt and mad.  I am numb and don't know what to do.  How do I fight this???
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« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2010, 10:09:01 AM »

First, I am so, so very sorry for the pain you are going through right now. This is a very heavy burden - trying to keep your marriage and family together - and I pray that you will be given the strength to see it through.

It sounds like your husband is a good man who is doing a bad thing, and good men are always worth fighting for.

I have seen many, many couples in this (and similar) situation find the help they need by going to one of Joe Beam's LovePath 911 workshops. (There is a link to it at the top of this forum, or you can just call 866-903-0990).

You have invested a lifetime with this man, and the state that he is in (being with this other women) will fade - I've seen it time and time again. However, by the time it fades, he may have lost everything.

My advice is to call the folks at LovePath and talk with them a bit. Also, take care of yourself - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You may not be able to physically look like the 23-year-old girl, but you can be the best you can be for your age and situation. Take care of yourself - hair, makeup, nice clothes. Spend time with friends (female friends). Get a new hobby or skill. Work on strengthening yourself as you fight for your marriage.
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