My wife and I have have been married for 9 years. I entered the marriage with a ready made family being a father to her 3 yr old who is now 13. In the 9 years we had 3 other children together. My wife became a good dedicated Christian almost form the beginning of our marriage. I resented this, the church she went to and the friends she made. We have our problems over these years with me being emotional & verbally abusive, playing emotional games and manipulative to get my way. She is a good woman and ways forgave me. I was not a tyrant over these years, but I believe I was a sick man. not to say she does not also have her self admitted flaws. In short, we both contributed to our problems. Five or so weeks ago she told me she wanted a separation. For the fist time, I saw the grief and pain I caused and the miserable life I was living. I instantly began to make changes in my life and a week or so ago, I asked God to come into my heart and help me lead a life according to his will. In doing this I confessed to an affair I had a year and half ago and an emotional affair she is currently having came to light. I am ready to lead a life according to God's will. I am ready to be a true father to our kids and a husband to my wife. However, do not believe, even though she forgives me and understand the reasons behind my affair, that she can continue to stay married to me. I on the other hand am ready to finally have the marriage we both wanted and dreamed of having. Any thoughts or ideas?