We have been married for 17 years with 2 kids 17 & 15. I admit we've had our share of problems and I do have a temper. But for the most part we are I fine. Atleast that's what I thought until this afternoon. I noticed some questionable behavoirs..distancing & alot of time on Facebook, lately.So I decided to check his fb inbox and saw where he had contacted a female coworker. telling her that she was the most beautiful woman he has ever met and that he has had a thing for her for the past 3 years. When she asked about our marraige, he says that's it's a bad situation. she left her number and he said that he would call her. This was dated back from January.

So today, while he was mowing the grass, I decided to go thru his phone. What I read was unbelivable. Over a span of 5 months, he has told her alOt of intimate things...He told her that she was the one, that he wanted to be with her, that she completes him. There was evidence that they have slept together at least twice. He told her that he was staying with me because our kids mean the world with him. He made a promise to her that he would leave me and marry her when our youngest is grown. They were alot of ' l love you's', exchanged between the both of them. And I figured out that he has even given her our credit card number before so she could order dinner for herself! I am so hurt and furious! I have not confronted him yet...I don't know how, or what to say without going apes. Is he really in love with her? And what do I do now?!