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« on: August 06, 2011, 11:56:51 AM »

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HI,
Over christmas I had a mental brake down ( I'm still seeing my doctor) and I went completly off the rails This was after I was offically in recovery from anorexica. In a fit of temper I told my husband that I didn't love him and he moved out.
He stayed with his mother for about 3 months but he has returned and all was great untill 3 weeks ago, he is hurting and he says he keeps reliving this one night while we were apart that I had a male friend of mine in our house and I told my husband that I was going to bed early so don't pop in the only reason why i did this was because The male friend was a farily new one and he was coming around to have a look at the first few chaptors of the book I'm writing as he is also a writer. Now nothing intermate happened and nothing was on the agenda but my husband did come to the house and I sent the male friend into the kitchen as in my warped mind i thought it would save an arguement which of cause it didn't as he walked straight into the kichen as he saw him!!
Also I had taken our wedding photos down that day due to it was too painfull to have them hung up.
I really do understand how dodgey this sounds but I love my husband more than anything eles in the world and I really want to get our mariage back on track but I don't know what to do as he wont touch me barly talks to me is always out and deliberatly works late as to avoid me. I know hes hurting and please help me ease his pain and regain his trust and love.
Please help me.
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« Reply #1 on: September 11, 2011, 07:39:01 AM »

I have to wonder if you are lying to yourself? I don't mean to sound rude but if there was nothing to hide why didn't you introduce the gentleman to the husband that night and explain who he was? Even if nothing did happen that night, would it have had your husband not returned home? Just because something physical didn't occur doesn't mean that nothing happened. Try placing yourself in your husbands shoes and imagine what he saw and how he would take it.

If you are leaving out information the best thing you could do is come clean. Even if you planned on something going down and it didn't be honest to your husband. Our partners usually know us best and can tell when they are being lied to and it upsets them even more. The problem here is you have all the makings for a night filled full of passion but claim it just looks bad. Like your husband, I feel there is more to the story and he knows it. Just be honest about the whole thing, if he can't move past it then it wasn't meant to be.
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