wow were do i start. i found out my wife was having a fling with a man she met on facebook playing a game. i had no clue just figured she needed some space. i have a job that has me work long hrs. i provide a good life for my wife and 2 children. i am not a come home dad who sits and watches TV, i help with all household jobs. i cook clean shop do laundry yardwork. i always trusted my wife and we had a great life together. at night she would sit in our bedroom playing games i would come in and out of the room and she was playing games either farkle or farmville. one vacation day i was home and was getting dressed after cutting the lawn and showering and my wife was going into the shower, i noticed she put her cellphone in her draw and i found that weird. she would be up at night in the basement either doing laundry or cleaning. after the incident of the phone i was a little uneasy about it but didn't think anything. next day she was texting while cooking,i didn't hear her phone ring but she was texting. next day at work i do a little snooping on my ellphone account before i say anything. i back track my bill 6 months and see nothing out of the ordinary. that night i am in bed and see my wife chatting i ask who is that she responds"u dint want to know". next day i dig deep into my cell bill and find out she has been texting a number for about 5 months and also has made phone calls. i am scared but continue looking. i add up that she had over 5k text and over 15 hrs on the phone with this guy. sendingover 100 pics to each other. to add insult to injury i took my wife away for our 24th anniversary to Atlantic City. i find 4 phone calls and 25 text from the trip to her facebook buddy. when we come home and i return to work i am devastated. i come home from work and confront her. she says it was only texting and she was bored with all the hrs i worked and it meant nothing. i show her the spreadsheets i made with the calls and text. god only knows how much internet time there was also. i also found out there was another guy a few times from LA. i went ballistic and stormed out of the house. she has apologized and has begged for forgiveness. i confronted both dirt bags on the internet and did n investigation on them. iexplained to them i knew who they were and there address family members names and there home phone number. told them if it didnt stop immediately they would suffer the consequences. it has been a tuff time dealing with this she has stopped all communication with them has done everything possible to make this up to me but i am having a problem with trust. i am working on it and it has been 12 months things are OK but i am not healed. i have lost trust and have kept this to myself. i have some bad days. just found this site and am glad there are people to talk to.