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« on: January 19, 2011, 09:13:44 AM »

Husband had an affair that lasted a year and ended in April or May. She worked for him and left the office in May. Recently he has been searching for her on facebook and the internet in general. I know this, but he puts a privacy setting on so that it is not in the search history. Is this normal behavior? She has saved many texts from the past and has threatened to others that she was going to contact me and show them to me, but never has. I thought we were doing really well, but should I be concerned that he is thinking about her again. Is he just curious about what she might be up to, or is it more? Do I confront him about it or wait and see if its just a passing thing?
Help please.  All opinions welcome. Confused
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« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2011, 09:59:08 AM »

If it is upsetting you then it is not right.  You have already had to deal with the fact that your husband had an affair with this woman (and you are still dealing with it) so to know that he is trying to get in touch with her or follow her life again must be extremely upsetting for you.  Personally I would tell him that I was aware of what he is doing and ask him to stop.  You don't need to make a big deal of it - just explain how it is making you feel.  If he cares he should respect your feelings.

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